12. Grasp everything exactly – This is a meditation.

The fingers that grip to lift the crowbar tightly change themselves while lifting a tube light. They grip it suitably softly. If the grip pressure is the same as for the crow bar.... what will happen to the fate of the tube light?

No lessons have been taught either to the fingers or to the brain as to how much of pressure should be given to which objects. But, still, we don't give such pressure which is not more than what is necessary for handling the given object. The reason: Growth of brain!

In the same manner, if only we know how to handle people with different characters... That only is maturity of character, ripeness, wisdom.

People's character cannot be studied examining it intellectually. The right approach would be from the point of view of the heart and taking their feelings into consideration. Some tips to get this maturity of character...

• Firstly, to the extent possible, grasp your own words, tone of the voice, and facial language during each of your conversations with others.
• Next, observe and grasp how other's face, eyes, voice and words change and appear due to your speech and other movements.
• Lastly, deeply feel and experience consciously for yourself, as to what would have happened inside you if your same words and facial expressions were shown to you by others.

Do this for all good as well as bad happenings. Observe and absorb within you, the changes made by you on others as well as the changes others made on you. This is a meditation.

As you go on doing this more and more, the lessons you learn from them will make you ripen. You will get maturity of character.

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