74. Body language🔗

That day Einstein was to deliver an explanatory lecture about E=mc in a very big university. As Einstein had to come from some other town, he didn't arrive in time.

Einstein's car driver thought he could help the situation, so he put on Einstein's clothes and got on to the dais.

It was a new town. The driver was also a graduate. The driver had listened to Einstein whenever he explained about E=mc2 at several places, remaining by his side.

Speaking just like Einstein without leaving even a single point, he spoke fluently as he knew all the points by heart.

As the crowd believed that it was Einstein only who was talking, they clapped joyfully at the end of the talk.

Next day, the problem began. A university professor asked a very complicated question about E=mc and the driver became frustrated. This was new to him. It was unexpected.

Since the driver had no dialogue or reply ready made for this new situation he was beginning to struggle. At the very moment Einstein entered the room.

Saying, ‘I don't reply for such an ordinary question. For this my car driver himself will give the reply.’ The driver invited Einstein to the dais and escaped.

❖ What would have been the condition of the driver if Einstein had to come after some delay? Driver's bluff would have got exposed through his staggering body language!

All those times, when we undergo feelings of stress and irritation due to some crisis situations are all only such moments.

In those situations when we do not have some ready made dialogues or the required intelligence, our true colors will get exposed outside through our body language.

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❖ The one that splits the body and mind is ego.

❖ What the mind thinks of expressing the man does not at all express through his body gestures. ❖ All of man's gestures come out mixed with his ego only. ❖ It is only our inability to express things which we think of expressing actually, which sows the seed for others misunderstanding us.

❖ I love you more than my life! ◦ Then how come you are still alive?

❖ Oh king, you delivered me! ◦ How is it possible grandma, for me to deliver you?

❖ You have let me down! I did not expect this from you! ◦ Why do you say such a bad lie?

❖ My stomach itself is burning! ◦ I will be very angry if you talk like this irrelevantly.

It will be a pity if people begin speaking like this. Things related to consciousness and experiences are very difficult to express in words.

All the above dialogues are mostly known to everybody. On many occasions, we act and exhibit ourselves as though we have expressed our feelings correctly through such ready made dialogues.

But the truth is that feelings cannot be expressed in words totally.

When we communicate information to a person, we can convey through our words only 10% of the matter.

What about conveying the balance information to the other person? It is being expressed only through the body language – Today's researchers agree on this very clearly.

It is very sad that today's education system that gives importance to the spoken word only which expresses a mere 10% of the information, does not give the same importance to body language, which expresses as high as 90% of the information.

This state of ignorance of not giving importance to body language should change.

For love, quality and nature to shine like a beacon light, the awareness about 'body language' should grow.

Body language is not an art that an individual can learn and then practise. It is basic for every one's life.

During the inter-personal relationships of ourselves with our near and dear, we realize that some thing which we expect in them is either present or absent in them. That particular thing is only the body language.

If it is to be explained further, when there happens to be some friction in our relationships, the trend of the conversation will be as follows:

'To the extent I show my love and affection to you, you don't show towards to me. To the extent you are saying you love, you don't show love towards me.'

'Why me?'

'Can I not get a single relationship which is true and real?'

'Love and affection are all outward show, mere words only.'

There is nothing to complain against you; you support me, show affection to me; even then, I continue to have a feeling that there is something still incomplete in our relationship....

What is that will complete it and give satisfaction?

That's only the sufficiencies and deficiencies of the body language.

For a person to be a receptionist in a company there are rules prescribed as to how sweet the words and body language should be in order to attract the customer.

When a person sees such an individual, while working as a receptionist, for that person, the receptionist will appear to be a very nice person.

But in reality, the chances of that receptionist being so nice and sweet are very low.

In order to efficiently perform the job of a receptionist, adopting good body language like welcoming with a smile, bowing, enquiring with politeness and love, not exhibiting any negative feelings on the face under any type of circumstances, in a mechanical way, is enough. The customer will be satisfied. There are more chances for the receptionist to exhibit good body language merely for the sake of getting her pay cheque. She may exhibit this polite behavior mechanically just for the sake of her job. In reality she may not be a polite person.

But each and every customer thinks always that he has been well received and properly looked after.

Because, the entire world lies in wait craving for a wholesome and complete conscious feeling. That is why, when we come across pleasant body language, we feel happy.

When the man feels so happy for a small incident of receiving, which lasts only a few minutes, if we show the fullness of our love and affection to our relations, who remain with us life-long, how happy they will be?

Think it over a little. The benefit will be great!

For the purpose of getting a job, education, opportunities or some sort of help, all of us would have exhibited polite and sweet body language to others and would have achieved the required results.

For very ordinary things, for somebody unknown, when we are able to bend ourselves and our understandings – why can’t we change ourselves for the sake of some of our relatives whom we love fully and dearly?

Even if we had not so far exhibited humility truly in our body language towards those close to us, at least hereafter we can show it out.

It is not a very big task to add sweetness to our body language and make others happy.

Understand deeply that 'body language' occupies a very large place in human relations, in fullness of love and in satisfaction. Add sweetness to the 'body language'. It is sufficient. You will understand the blissful formula for social living.

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A meaningful incident.

Tenali's wife said, 'You should correct certain things in yourself. While you talk intelligently with many, with some you behave like a fool.'

With his eye movement itself Tenali asked, 'With whom?'

Tenali's wife replied, 'With me and my children'.

Without using his words just with his facial expression he looked at his wife as if to say, 'O Fool!'

The wife babbled foolishly saying, 'Hereafter, you must behave wisely to us as well.' He looked at her arrogantly.

The love which appeared in Tenali's eyes, affection in his face, the pity expressed in his body language – For the sake of these, it was usual for Tenali's wife to rejoice and relax when conversing with Tenali in this manner.

❖ The research scientists' opinion is:

When you converse,

Your words convey only 7% of the information. Your voice and feelings convey 35% of the information. Your body-language conveys 58% of the information.

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How much we hang on and cajole a person until the work for which he has been approached, is completed. We show humility, we smile cheerfully at him!

This is all until the job is completed. No matter what happens we will remain patient to the maximum extent possible. Have you noticed this?

In regard to those close to us, whatever wrong happens, even though it is very small, immediately we will pounce on them. Instantly we would lose our patience.

Have you observed this also?

If you pounce on your relatives for small mistakes and remain calm when a stranger does the same mistake you may conclude that you don't remain a king of your mind.

The titles such as head of the household and queen of the house should not just stop at the level of being simple entries on the ration (identity) cards. It should become true and real.

The man, who remains patient with a third person, is not prepared to be patient in regard to his relatives.

One who is patient, rules the earth. This is the truth.

It will be raining money in the cash chest of one who laughs just for money. Good body language will attract money of course. These are not big things.

Being a king or becoming a king is not a big thing. But remaining as a king of your home is a great thing.

To become a king of your home, first of all, you should become the king of your own mind.

75. Are you an agitating type of person?

Nitti bought a brand new Santro car. Since his neighbors all had cars out of some false prestige, he had bought the car. But Nitti did not know how to drive the car.

Nitti sat at the drivers' seat and turned the ignition and was trying to do some thing on the car, which was parked on the top of a ramp. The brake of the car got released and the car started running down the slope, the car got started.

On seeing the car move, Nitti joyfully moved the steering and the car moved in the direction he turned the steering to.

As Nitti was driving the car with the same joy on the empty highway, he suddenly got a doubt. He wondered, 'How to stop the car?'

However much he thought about it, he could not figure out a way to stop the car. Nitti got agitated and became afraid.

The only thing that was under his control was the steering.

Then he turned the car towards the tamarind tree which was there before him. The car dashed against it and came to a halt with a big jerk.

❖ In this story, did Nitti drive the car or did the car drive Nitti?

If the enthusiasm and agitation is entirely under your control, it means you are in control of your mind and therefore your life. If these feelings are not under your control then your mind is in control of your life.

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❖ Being angry, desiring certain things, being sorrowful - all these are not in our hands. Why does this happen?

❖ Each person is different from the other. Unique. How does it happen?

❖ People who harm continuously... People who worry themselves even without a reason... People who get irritated for any thing and every thing... What for these things continue this way?

❖ Why? How? What for? - Reply for all these three questions - That is human nature.

An evil spirit is sleeping comfortably in the mind of each one of us.

According to the results of the research conducted by psychiatrists, only 10% of our mind is under our control, and is being used by us.

Ninety per cent of our mind is not under our control.

90% of the mind functions only under the control of that one which we call as the evil spirit sleeping within us.

The name of that evil spirit is instinct. Human instinct! Human nature!

For a person to be violent, to be foolish or be angry - all these only depend upon his instinctive nature.

Reason: The one that controls the man is the mind. The one that controls the mind is his nature.

One small story.

A prince, who went round the city in disguise, saw a cock-fight for the first time. After watching the cock-fight with great interest, he wanted to have a fighting cock for himself.

He appointed a 'fighting cock trainer' and bought a fighting cock for himself and started rearing it.

After a week, the prince asked the trainer about the cock. The trainer said, 'As soon as it hears the loud shouting cry of the neighbour's cock, our cock gets angry.'

'Is it so?' exclaimed the prince with surprise.

After a month, the prince asked the trainer about the cock. 'If the cock in the next street shouts, our cock, which is here, becomes eager to fight. It shakes its body and immediately prepares itself for the fight' said the trainer.

The prince was glad to hear this. He asked, 'Is it so? Is our cock that alert and agitated on hearing the other cocks?' When he asked the trainer after two months about the cock the trainer replied, 'For our cock, nowadays, clucking and cries of another cock are not necessary. On seeing another cock, instantly it becomes agitated.'

Wide eyed with surprise, the prince asked, 'Is that so? Shall we send our cock for the fight?'

The trainer said, 'Be patient. The cock has not still got the required maturity. When it gets the required maturity to fight, I will send word to you.'

The prince thought to himself: By merely seeing another cock, our cock gets agitated. What more maturity does our cock need to fight?

After three months the trainer sent word to the prince that the cock was ready for a cock fight. He declared, 'The cock has now got the required maturity. The cock can be sent for a cock-fight. Tell the prince that he can come and see.'

The prince was surprised to see the cock, since it was calmly pecking at the grains and was playing around when there was another cock by its side which was shouting loudly and angrily. The prince thought, 'This cock used to get agitated by simply seeing another cock. How come it is so calm and peaceful?'

The prince said, 'Oh trainer! This cock is quite opposite to what you have stated. Why did you speak a lie?'

The trainer's reply puzzled the prince more. He said, 'You put our cock in a fight. Then you can understand.'

The prince asked for arrangements to be made for a cock fight. The other cock was raising dust, fluttering its feathers, shaking its head and body and looked frightful.

But the princes' cock was standing very calmly, watching every thing.

The prince said angrily, 'What man! Believing you, I have said that it is my cock, but it is standing watching the other cock without fighting?'

The trainer replied, 'Oh prince, please wait. The peak of maturity in a battle-field is approaching the opponent calmly and carefully. The other cock is raising so much dust only to protect itself. Agitation is only the lack of belief in oneself. Carefulness or calmness is one which is beyond the agitated state. Our cock...' As the trainer was saying this, at that very moment....

As the opposition cock flew ferociously and came near the prince's cock, which was in a state of readiness, the prince's cock accurately pounced upon it and cut away its feather with the knife tied to its toe.

An agitated man is certainly better than both a violent man and a fool. But that is not a final state of mind which is desirable.

To rage and get agitated is not maturity. If you become angry or irritated on seeing or hearing a thing which is not to your mind's liking, then you are also an agitator only. Agitator is not a name given only to those who involve themselves in revolutions.

Rising up is only an indication that the mind is coming out of its dullness. Continuously thinking without any rest, always doing some thing or the other busily, getting agitated when things are not to his liking - All these are signs of growth only.

Rising up with rage and getting agitated - Are all states to be passed over; these are not states for celebration; not characters to be proud of.

The majority of the people in the present generation are of the agitating type only. Like a ghost, agitation will remain inside the man and shake him up; it will order him around to behave in a certain way. The man also will still be thinking he is alive and active.

Agitation will not allow a man to rest. It will see that contentment does not reach anywhere near him.

It is only a state between dullness and an agitated state of mind, which brings contentment to life and that is Carefulness! Patience! Peace of mind! Contentment! Joy!

Unless this truth is realized by man, agitation will torture life as it likes.

The man who has not known this truth will get vexed in the later part of his life, saying, ‘Oh! I lived in the right way! I labored hard too! Why for me alone, so much of difficulties?’

If the quality of patience is nurtured in us, we can put a big full stop for all these problems.

Reducing this agitation in the mind paves the way for patience.

Meditative energy has the power to burn off this agitation.

Agitation is not maturity. Agitation is only a part of growth. Go beyond agitation and attain patience. Life will be joyful.

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A meaningful incident.

At a Sunday sermon, the preacher said, 'Make love. Do not harm any creature. Talk about the incidents when you showed love.'

When John's turn came, he said hurriedly, 'Once a man kicked a dog... I kicked that man!' - This way he recollected his love.

❖ When an agitator shows love, even in that violence will peep in. This man should become peaceful.

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Meditation chisels. Chisel No. 30.

Teachings of the enemy...

If somebody calls you, 'Come on Oh! Bill Clinton', you will not get angry.

If someone calls you, 'Oh! Mad fellow!' your eyes would become red with anger. When that anger does not appear when you are addressed as the 'President of America', why should it come when you are called a 'Mad man'? Why? Does it not mean that calling you as President is a total lie and in calling you 'mad' there is some truth to it.

The man, who laughs when he is called as President, becomes angry when he called a mad man and behaves like a mad man himself...That does mean that there is substantial amount of truth in what the other person has said.

Take into account those times when you got irritated and became angry and also the times of such nature, which may happen in the future. Bring to your mind and examine the words expressed by the opposite party during those times. Reason: Those words reveal clearly and loudly the truths about you to a considerable extent.

Those are special formulae which help you to correct yourself.

Do not miss such moments which teach you about yourself. Change such times of irritation and anger into times of meditative research.

76. Face fear with courage.

The lady who had come to the Ashram, looked very much disturbed as she said, ‘Swamiji, I feel very upset whenever I think about my son.’

I told her, ‘Don't worry, tell me openly as to what the problem is’.

She began saying, ‘Master, he does not listen to me. Often he quarrels with the ladies next door. Last week he had a fight with the boys living in the adjacent street. He loses his temper even for small problems. He begins to fight even for little things. He doesn't stay in the house at all. He likes to remain in the street corner. If it goes this way, he will not marry the girl I choose. I am afraid that he may run away from me along with some girl in future. Whenever I think about this, I feel very upset, Master.’

Then I told that woman who gave more importance to the societal status than to her son that she would get through his marriage. I said, ‘Don't worry madam. Bring your son to the Ashram one day. I will talk to him separately. If we set right his mind, everything will become all right.

She said, ‘Master, why some other day! I have brought my son along with me. You can talk to him now itself.’ So saying she put down the four year old boy from her hip. Not understanding any thing that was happening there, the boy was simply blinking.

❖ Every person, in some way or the other, gets caught in some fear like this and lives in that fear only. This is no exaggeration. For that lady, that was the fear.

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❖ Fear has got the ability and strength to spread the life-energy through-out the body within a second.

❖ Fear is a gift given by God to man to protect him from harm.

❖ One of the important reasons for humanity to remain disciplined and united to this extent is fear.

❖ In the same way as the excess or deficiency of salt in the food will not make the food tasty, if fear is high or low, life will be hell only.

❖ To utilize the feeling of fear properly, man needs experiential wisdom. If this wisdom is not there, fear will surely ruin us.

If you turn the pages containing 'phobias' in the Encyclopedia, you will be stunned to see the different types of phobias. An interesting research study about the various phobias from Acrophobia (fear of heights) to Zoophobia (fear of animals), which make men fear in various ways was done.

If one begins to act due to increased feeling of fear and loses his self-control that only is called 'phobia'.

Without using the feeling of fear properly, if one acts in a dull manner that is called as 'foolish boldness'.

If you feel that, 'fear, foolish-boldness may be present in some people, but surely not in me', then this article is surely for you...

Excepting those enlightened persons who have gone beyond death experience while living itself, all men would have been affected by some type of phobia or foolish boldness. This is Vedic truth.

'Almost all persons are affected by some type of phobia or the other'– This is the conclusive opinion of psycho-analysts.

Here is an amusing story matching the above truths.

An enlightened Master living outside the town of Sundarapuri, used to solve people's problems.

One day the Master asked Yama Dharma (Lord of death) who was coming towards Sundarapuri, 'Why you have come here?'

Yama said, 'Master, according to the accounts of Kaliyuga, I have to take with me to Yamaloka, five hundred people from the town immediately.'

The Master said, 'I will see to that the Kaliyuga accounts are tallied all right. As long as I am here, you should not do any thing with them. You may go back.'

As he had to take people immediately, Yama said, 'Master, please permit me to take at least three hundred people.'

'No... It is not possible.'

'Master, if you put a ban order, what shall I do? Please permit me to take at least a hundred people.'

'Hundred persons are too many. There are fifty persons who have lived their lives well and are ready to leave the world. You can take only those people.' said the Master.

Hearing this, Yama joyfully entered the town as though he had got the permission to take three hundred persons with him.

Having continuously attacked fifty persons for a week through the disease of cholera, without exceeding the limit permitted by the Master, Yama completed his job and started towards Yamaloka.

But, when Yama was leaving that town, he was leaving with three hundred soul bodies. The Master asked, 'Oh Yama, I gave you permission for only fifty persons. How can you take away the lives of three hundred people?'

Laughingly Yama Dharma said, 'Master, I have not exceeded the limit permitted by you. I made Cholera to come into the city. Fifty died of Cholera by lose motions. The other two hundred and fifty died simply by fear phobia on seeing them die. My accounting is now all right. It has tallied.'

Instead of the word 'phobia' the word 'fear' is easily understood by all.

When you sit in the giant wheel, and go round up and down, you might have experienced the fear feeling. Where did you feel the fear?

You might have felt a peculiar and frightful feeling exactly at the right side of the lower abdomen.

What is the connection between the fear and lower abdomen?

In fear, only the lower abdomen alone feels bad, why?

The location where we get the feeling of fear is only that place where the SWADHISHTANA CHAKRA is located. This is what the Rishis have realized and stated so thousands of years ago.

Swadhishtana is one of the seven energy centers which are in our body.

It is only in this Swadhishtana Chakra, fear is present. The root of our life-energy is also present here.

When fear grips us due to any unexpected reason, for every minute of that happening, our Swadhishtana Chakra is shaken.

It is only the feeling given out by the tiny drop of life-energy which is released when Swadhishtana Chakra is shaken, which gives that frightening feeling while going around vertically in the giant wheel.

The life-energy which is already in circulation in our body is not adequate enough to tackle an unexpected situation or an emergency.

During such moments the fear shakes up the Swadhishtana and gives out the energy needed to meet that situation.

As we live continuously with fear about one thing or the other right from childhood itself, fear has become a continuing aspect of life.

Even for small fears experienced each time, the life-energy will release itself instantly.

The problem starts only when the fear which may normally be experienced by a person once in a while, happens to be present in him always.

When fear becomes a continuous event of life, man gets afflicted with nervousness.

It turns out to become mind-body related diseases like chronic nervousness and agitation. This condition is phobia.

When an insult occurs, when problems come, when we commit mistakes - whenever we are agitated like this, we live only in fear.

Feeling a sense of agitation within us, speech going astray, trembling of the fingers - if any one of these is present, then, it means that in those moments we are losing our control.

As a result of this, the waste of life-energy that occurs only creates nervousness and agitation.

This only is phobia.

How to come out of this phobia?

Easy - Without becoming afraid of fear, begin to approach the fear with awareness to such an extent that fear itself has to become afraid.

There are lot of differences between getting agitated due to fear ending up in phobia and facing fear with awareness that helps go beyond agitation, which is an outcome or expression of phobia.

In short, face fear with boldness. The problem is solved.

A meaningful incident.

A devotee asked, 'Explain as to how to face fear boldly'.

'When you come alone in the night and if a dog chases you, how fast will you run? That atmosphere is fear. Still have you not faced it with boldness? Is it not true that from somewhere energy bubbled up within you!

Why should it be only a dog or a ghost which should make the energy within us bubble up? Why not we do it ourselves? Approach fear with boldness. Fear will vanish.' I said.

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Meditation chisels. Chisel No.31.

Do not hesitate to throw out the hesitation.

The daring one called man, who already visited the moon itself, as though it is not enough, is getting prepared and venturing to go even beyond Mars and enter further into the Universe.

But he loses and misses life that is nearby. He has not yet approached it even.

He is not able to speak about what he thinks, as it is.

Reason: Morals, values, rules and regulations crush his throat into inaction.

Unable to laugh when he feels like, unable to cry, he suppresses even very justifiable feelings. If you ask him the reason, he says, 'fashion'.

Man has become afraid to the extent that he is unable to laugh boldly. What sort of life is this?

He fears and hesitates in regard to many aspects of life!

Due to such kind of things happening deep in his sub-conscious mind, the man, who picks up the thoughts from his upper superficial mind, says... "I don't like certain things... I don't like public speaking... I don't like laughing aloud like a lunatic... I never like to give in, anyway...

All such sentences he scatters outside due to his inner fear.

If we have to say in short... whatever may be life incident, in which hesitation peeps its head within you, then it means that you are afraid in your sub-conscious mind, of that incident.

Make a list of all your hesitations.

Do not leave out even small hesitations.

Do not fail to face and tackle those future moments in which you are going to meet with those hesitations you have listed.

In those moments when fear peeps out its head surreptitiously, meet with abandon that hesitation, saying, ‘If there is going to be hesitation, let it be there.’

Act without any constraints.

Without any hesitation, hold tight the head of hesitation twist it and throw it out. Fear, which is the physical body of hesitation will come out and fall off.

Make hesitation times as meditation times.

77. Foolishness

❖ No fool would call himself a fool. No one will even think so. There is only damage in this. There is no benefit.

❖ Same way, no wise person will call himself wise, nor would he think so. There is no harm or damage in this. There will certainly be benefit in doing so.

❖ Are you a person who has been harmed or are you a person who is benefited? You only have to examine and tell the result.

❖ Without taking into account one's own fitness and clarity, if one has a firm belief (knowingly or unknowingly) that 'I am wise', it is only from this seed of belief the thorny bush of 'foolishness' grows even without one's knowledge.

A post-graduate student presented a new and sensational research paper in the University. The entire audience listened to it with rapt attention. After the presentation was over, the entire hall itself reverberated with applause.

But the chief of faculty who was sitting in the front row was not at all moved by it.

On seeing the chief's face, when the student worriedly went there and asked him, 'Have I done well in my paper?' the chief said, 'This is pure plagiarism. Every word in this article has already appeared in another book. I cannot be deceived.'

The student was shaken due to shock. The reason: That article was out and out solely prepared by him. The student lost his sleep that night because the Master said, 'Tomorrow I will come with that book.'

Next day, the chief came and said, 'Open this and see' and gave him the book.

On opening it, the student was shocked. It was the Oxford dictionary.

❖ What is stated above is not an exaggerated story. It is the truth of the inner world.

❖ It is an example of foolishness raising its ugly head in the name of intelligence.

❖ Like the chief who snubbed the creative ability of the student, the foolishness of snubbing everybody and every thing should be found out. It should be dissolved.

'What Swamiji, the heading itself is rather negative?' – are you thinking this way...

What to do...

Some times truths have to be spoken loudly in public. I am going to touch the tumour present in the minds of many people for a long time. Some may feel the pain...

There is no other go. Let us treat that tumour at least now. Otherwise it will become fistulous day by day.

Those who get the thought, 'Is this article meant for me?' please continue to read on.

If you think, 'Oh! This article is not written for me.' Know it clearly then that this article is definitely for you.

❖ Remaining lazy without doing any thing constructive in life is surely foolishness.

❖ For that reason toiling without rest and earning endlessly is not wise either.

Life is only to live! It is not to die by earning continuously.

Here is a story of a doctor, who conforms to the above statement.

Dr. Moorg Mukund, he is a very famous surgeon and the HOD(Head of the Department) in a medical college. He owns a hospital with excellent modern facilities in the heart of a big city.

P.A. to Dr. Mukund was talking about the greatness of the doctor. He said, 'Our doctor holds an important post in the association. Two days in a week, he will be on tour attending conferences in other towns, visiting medical camps. Once in two months, he visits foreign countries. Other than this, his business, his estate...'

The moment I heard all this, only Vivekananda came to my mind. Once Vivekananda was taken to many important places and entertainment centers in America to show the most modern developments there.

Americans were waiting to hear in what way Vivekananda was going to appreciate all that.

Vivekananda said, ‘One thing is clear on seeing that you have created so many entertainment and recreation centers and on seeing huge crowds of people coming to them, that you are all greatly disturbed mentally and are in sorrow’. By this statement, he made plain the condition of Americans.

Americans were amazed.

Vivekananda continued, ‘If the people are not suffering from mental troubles and sorrows, and if they are happy, why at all should they come here in such huge crowds? Will not their own homes themselves be heavens?’ he asked.

It is the same story in the case of Dr. Mukund also.

The recreational centers of the Americans are actually the colourful paints created to make them forget their lives which are devoid of happiness.

The extra-ordinarily busy life-style of Dr. Mukund is only a colourful painting to show him only as an achiever, duly hiding his unsteady and shallow life.

I asked the personal assistant to the doctor, ‘Do you wish to live like your doctor in your next birth?’

The Personal assistant was hoping to impress me with the achievements of the doctor and was expecting a reply such as, ‘Oh! Is it so? Is your Dr. Moorg Mukund such a great doctor?’

He hesitated and after thinking for a while, the Personal assistant said, ‘No, no. It is not possible for me. I do not want such a life.’

I asked the Personal assistant, ‘Why do you say this? What a great doctor he is! How much of property he owns! Whatever he thinks he can buy, he can achieve! Why you don't want such a nice life?’

He replied, ‘No, you don't know. Whatever I said about him are all true. These are his achievements in the outer life only. In his personal life every thing is topsy-turvy.’

'What are you saying?' I asked.

The personal assistant continued, 'Yes. He is a disciplined man. Exactly at seven in the morning he will come to the hospital to see the patients. After seeing every one he would return home only at nine O'clock. He will not stay in the house for even half an hour. Immediately he will pick up the cell phone in his hand and spend his time with the cell phone making business calls and calls related to property management. Then if he begins to see the out-patients it will go on up to 2 or 3 in the afternoon. Besides this, he has to go to medical college also twice in a week.

He will go home at 3 in the afternoon eat his food in a hurry and then lie down. As he is having B.P and diabetes, he cannot get up quickly. But as the duty calls, with great difficulty he will get up at half past four and when he comes to the hospital at 5 O' clock. After finishing surgery, it would be 10 or 11 in the night. Some days it may even be twelve in the night.

As soon as he reaches home, there will be just time enough for him to eat and sleep. Again, he has to be up at six in the morning. What life is this? For the last thirty years his life is going on in this manner. He does not get even an hour fully to speak lovingly to his wife. If his son wants to talk to his father, he has to come to the hospital, talk between the patients and go.

The number of days he has actually lived with his family can be easily counted on one's fingers as these are the days when once in two or three years he travels with his family to some far off place for 4 or 5 days.

There is no satisfaction at all in the family life either for himself or his wife or even for his sons who are studying abroad.

Without any satisfaction in life, simply going on earning money and fame and stacking it in a big way, what is the benefit and to who is the benefit?

Swamiji, I wish to live a happy and harmonious life along with my family only.

I do not wish to live a life with this profession and with money like him.

In my next life, if I am going to get a life similar to that of the doctor, then my present life which is many times more peaceful and less difficult, is itself much better', so saying the P.A. poured his feelings of pity and sympathy for the doctor.

I asked him, 'Are you able to understand fully that the life lived by the doctor is not a wise or pleasant one?' He replied, ‘Yes, I am able to understand that fully.’

‘Because you are a spectator, you fully know about the difficulties of Dr.Moorg Mukund. Does the doctor know about himself to the extent you know about the doctor?’ I asked.

He emphatically replied, ‘No. Certainly he does not know.’

‘When the doctor himself does not know about his own self, how is it that you know about yourself?’ I asked.

The P.A. was shaken a little by the question.

I told him, ‘You examine about yourself thoroughly.’

After a few minutes, having got upset, he started sweating and he said, ‘Yes, surely I do not know about myself fully.’

Further, ‘So far, on seeing people who suffer more than me, I have believed all along, that I am fine and I am living an intelligent life.’ Accepting this truth, he started correcting himself.

Like this P.A., for many persons, other's foolishness is clearly visible but the truth about them alone is not visible or known.

Unless one gets enlightened some foolishness or the other will be sticking on to man.

Hasid Master Jumalki said, ‘Even though we may be intelligent when it comes to some aspects of education, culture, society or religion, there will be some immature aspects that are very much present in us.’

If we do not have the satisfaction of having lived our life in all its fullness and totality, then from that itself, we can understand that we have not made use of the energy or power of intelligence given by God.

Each one is able to see the other's faults very clearly.

But one's own fault is not at all visible even in a dim manner.

Examine as to where that foolishness, which destroys and spoils away the satisfaction is hiding.

Consult and discuss with others.

Perhaps, like you, your relatives also may be intelligent persons in correctly pointing out the mistakes in others.

Start utilizing fully, the energy of intelligence given by God to experience and enjoy fully each and every incident in life and to live naturally.

Intelligence will begin to bubble up.

You will begin to live life with fulfillment to the extent of having lived satisfactorily.

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A meaningful incident.

Parents to the son:

'Tom is younger to you. But how is it that Tom continues to get higher marks than you always?'

The son replied, 'Tom's parents are intelligent.'

❖ Are we intelligent to the extent that we believe?

Find the answer.

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Meditation chisels. Chisel No.32.

Doubt yourself. Let your mistakes be known to you also!

We do not believe that others are speaking the truth.

Reason: We do not speak the truth.

Because we believe that others are also like us, we mostly believe that others are speaking lies as though they are the truths.

You doubt everybody. You always view others with doubtful eyes. But you never look at yourself with doubtful eyes.

If you had done so even once, instead of finding the fault of others, you would have found out about yourself.

However much we take pains to explain to others in a detailed manner, others are not at all prepared to either correct themselves or even to listen to us.

They believe that they are intelligent and that they behave correctly.

They lose the opportunities to correct themselves. It is a great pity!

In the same way, will you not be continuously losing the opportunities to correct yourself too!!!

Once in a way, when we examine ourselves and when we find out some faults, instead of proceeding towards correcting them, we are drawn towards grief only. This is unnecessary.

So doubt yourself. Let the flaws of your character come to light.

Let your faults which were so far known to others only, hereafter be known to you too.

Towards others, there will always be an iota of doubt.

Turn the direction of arrow of doubt to point towards you.

Whenever a doubt is born, let those times of doubt become meditation times.