What is integrity in Relationships?🔗

Today, I will expand on how these four principles of life can enrich you in your relationships.

The first principle of life is integrity. Just take a few minutes and visualize - if everyone around you talks to you with integrity and speaks only the truth to you and relates with you with integrity, how nice your life will be! Just take a few seconds and visualize this.

How many of you suffered in your life because people around you lied to you or did not have integrity towards you? Raise your hand.

Then, when you have suffered, why do you want to give the same suffering to others? We expect sympathy and integrity from others. But unfortunately, we ourselves don’t live it. You expect integrity from others, but you do not feel the need to practice integrity in your own life.

Listen! I want all of you to know that integrity is not being promoted by me, as a morality or ethics. I am not promoting integrity as a morality or ethics. integrity is much more than morality and ethics. I am offering integrity to you as a cosmic principle, as a cosmic law! When you are integrated, so many resources which are only there in you as a potential suddenly becomes a reality in you!

With integrity, you will experience a relationship with yourself for the first time! Until you align yourself to integrity, even you do not know what you really want in your life! Until you align yourself to integrity, even you do not know what you want in your life. You want something and you are doing something else.

Yesterday one of my ananda yogam students sent me a question about freedom. He was asking, ‘Swamiji, you said freedom means aligning the possibilities you are creating with your free will. Is this freedom?’

You are right, but your question needs to have a little more integrity! If you start living integrity, you will have the question itself from a deeper angle. Let me explain.

Please listen! When you give a word to yourself and you honor it, three things happen. First, your bio-memory will be aware while you give words to yourself; second, it will decide to remember whenever you give words to yourself; third, it will have tremendous self-confidence about the words you give to you.

Sometime people come and tell me, ‘Swamiji, I forget the words that I give to me.’ It is like you when you were a kid - when your kids give you words but you don’t take them seriously. Why? Because you know that they won’t fulfill them! They will say, ‘I will wake up in the morning.’ But, you know that they will not do it, because they have failed many times. So you don’t take them seriously. In the same way, when you have not honored the words you gave to you many times, not only do you not take them seriously, you don’t even bother to remember them. How many of you cognize what I am saying?

Many times, many times, because you built the pattern of not honoring the words you give to yourself, not only do you not bother to fulfill them, but you also do not bother to execute or remember them. Every word you talk to yourself is a commitment that you are giving yourself. With this understanding, you should think. It means, that you have so much of awareness, it needs to be infused while you think, while you give words to you.

Listen! It is unfortunate that society constantly reminds you to fulfill the words you give to society, but it does not teach you the basic truth that you need to fulfill and honor the words you give to yourself. Many times, you don’t honor the words you give yourself. You don’t even bother to remember the words you give yourself, because you built the pattern of not honoring the words you give yourself!

In Spandakarika and Vignana Bhairava Tantra, when Mahadeva (Bhairava) teaches Bhairavi, he brings in

this point again and again. In almost twenty meditation techniques he says, ‘By self-remembrance, enlightenment is achieved!’

Please listen! The first step towards self-remembrance is being integrated with yourself! You should honor every word you give yourself, you should remember it. Only then will you have a beautiful relationship with yourself.

I tell you, if you are not complete with yourself, you can never have a vacation in your life. You may go to any beach and lie down, you may go to any resort and lie down, you may go to any tourist spot, you may go to any spa and try to have a vacation, but I guarantee you - if you are not complete with you, you cannot have a vacation! You simply cannot have a vacation if you are not complete with you!

Even if you lie down in a beach or sit in a park trying to enjoy the evening sunset, you are carrying an incomplete being. So, you will constantly be haunted by you, harassed by you. You carry the incomplete part of you, in you. You cannot leave that guy anywhere, no matter where you try to escape. Escaping from you is a race you will always lose!

So, the first step you need to do to have a vacation, is not booking your resort or flight ticket or golf course. No! Do completion with you. Do completion with you! That is the first step you need to do, if you want a vacation in your life.

It is so unfortunate that human beings don’t do first things first. First, have a beautiful relationship with you. The best relationships start with you having a great relationship with you. How many of you cognize this truth?

Listen! Listen! LISTEN! I still have not asked the question. Listen! You prepared yourself for a great vacation; you booked your tickets, you booked your resort, and the whole family is ready. You go there for your vacation, but because your incompletions are haunting you, you are only more depressed, more disturbed and you come back to your work more tired. How many of you have experienced this? Raise your hand.

Now, first make a list of all the commitments you gave yourself and did not fulfill. Sit and write them down. Complete them first. If you have already honored them, great! If you are going to honor it, commit to honor it within a clear time-frame. If you are not able to honor, if you feel that you will not be able to honor it even by giving your life, then at least complete with yourself! Relieve yourself from that commitment; consciously fulfill it. It is so unfortunate that you care so much about the words you give to others due to your fear or greed, but you don't care for the words you give yourself. Only if you complete with you, only if you are complete with you, you will be able to even be in the space of self-remembrance, restful awareness, atma smarana.

When I teach people techniques about self-remembrance, they come back and complain to me, 'Swamiji, I am not able to constantly be in remembrance of myself, of my atman. I drift off

into other ideas and subjects. Why?'

Listen! It is because of your incompletions that you are not in restful awareness when you remember yourself. The first thing you need to do is complete with you, build a relationship of restful awareness with you, a relationship of completion with you. The words you give to you and to others have to be integrated. You need to bring integrity within you. Only then, the technique of atma vichaara given by vedanta, the technique of self-remembrance given by Buddha, the self-remembrance techniques given by Mahadeva in Vijnana Bhairava Tantra, everything will produce the result of atma jnaana in you, enlightenment in you. If you do not have completion with you, how can you remember yourself beyond the incomplete identities? Your incomplete identities are responsible for the constant inauthenticity, the lack of integrity and irresponsible thoughts happening in you.

When I was young, I used to sit in samadhi for hours together. At first, my classmates used to make fun of me. After a few years, they started asking me, 'We do not know what you think when you are sitting quietly, but we are really shocked that you are able to sit for hours together, silently.' I said 'What is there in this? It is my body and my mind. I just tell myself to sit and I sit, that's all!' Only when my classmates expressed their inability to sit with themselves did I realize that to be able to sit with yourself silently is one of the great gifts you can have. First, you have to build a relationship with you.

Today, the truth I wanted all of you to experience is this. Unless you complete with you, you will not have restful awareness. Restful awareness with you is very important. I tell you, restful awareness with yourself is not just wealth, it is a basic right for you. In the cosmic constitution, restful awareness is your basic right. Enlightened beings land on the planet earth to ensure that your basic right is restored to you. I am defending the cosmic constitution continuously, to ensure that your basic rights are restored to you, and you reclaim your basic rights.

Restful awareness with you is your basic right, and I proclaim that it is possible for you to reclaim your basic right. Self-completion, svapoornatva, is the direct method to reclaim your self-completion, your space of restful awareness.

How many of you cognize with integrity and authenticity that self-completion makes you experience restful awareness with you? Raise your hand.

I tell you, this is your basic right. Reclaim it and live it.

I bless you all to achieve, experience, live, express, radiate, share, explode and enrich with enlightenment! Let you all achieve, experience, live, express, radiate, share, explode and enrich with eternal bliss – ‘Nithyananda’! Thank you!

Human beings unfortunately do not look for permanent, real solutions. They only want consolation, not solutions. That is the main reason why the teachers who give temporary solutions are more popular; it feels more like a fast-food restaurant! But I tell you, permanent solutions are easier and quicker than temporary solutions. The mind which goes for temporary solutions has a certain sickness, and will not execute even the temporary solutions!