THE INNER ORGASM🔗

You are enough unto yourself

The Upanishad says, 'Prana is God. Don't waste it.' Prana is not air. It is energy. The subtle energy which is carried by the air in and out of your system is called prana. Air is only the medium to carry this energy. Prana is the life force that you need to survive. Though you breathe throughout the day, you are never fully aware of your breathing. Your breath is always short. The muladhara chakra is the sex energy center in your body. If you breathe deeply, your muladhara will be awakened. Not only that, all your energy centers will be alive. As of now, only when the muladhara is active, that is, when you are in the act of sex or fantasizing, your energy is at its peak and your whole Being is alive and active. However, through deep breathing, your body can be alive throughout the day and throughout the year. When you do the Dukkha Harana meditation technique that we teach at our Life Bliss Program for energizing the chakras, many people undergo the orgasmic experience in their Being. They ask me, 'How can meditation take a person to such an experience?' I tell them that they first have to understand that the orgasm has nothing to do with the outside man or woman. It has got to do with your own energy system. When I say surrender to love, I don't mean surrender to the partner. I mean surrender to the experience which is love. We always feel that the joy is because of the outer man or woman, the partner. No! It is because of the inner alchemy which happens in your system. Your energy is awakened and you feel ecstatic. When you attain to eternal bliss, you will feel the ecstasy all the time, irrespective of any outer world object.

First ever Nithyanandam Program, Bangalore ashram, India - Dec 2005. People from 20 countries gathered for the program.

Don't compare!

Let us look at the major areas of comparison amongst people. All points of comparison can be brought under the major heads namely money, status, beauty and knowledge. In Zen Buddhism, there is a meditation technique wherein any problem is looked into clearly and steadily. The problem then is said to dissolve automatically!

Buddha went to his routine lecture session one day with a kerchief in his hand. The kerchief had a knot in it. He asked his students if any of them would come forward to untie the knot. One student came forward and untied it easily. The technique is this: you first have to look at how the knot is tied and then it will become obvious how to untie it. Every problem is pregnant with the solution like a woman is with the baby.

This microphone here has a positive existence and therefore I can remove it from this room and place it in the next room. Now imagine that there is darkness in this room. Can I remove it if I want to? Can I take it to another room? No! The reason is that darkness has negative existence. It does not really exist. If I bring light into the room, the darkness will automatically cease to exist. In the same way, thoughts in you such as 'I am ugly', 'I am rich' etc. all have negative existence. Jealousy has negative existence. You cannot deal with it directly because it does not exist as an entity. It exists only because you connected a few thoughts about yourself and about the other person and gave life to that idea. Even if you tell yourself repeatedly not to feel jealous you cannot overcome it.

If you queue up all the people in the world in ascending order of money, where would you be? Somewhere in the middle! You will not even be able to count the number of people on either side of you in the queue. Now with your thoughts, you have to decide if you are going to look at the queue in front of you and feel jealous, or look at the queue behind you and feel relaxed and grateful to God! It is in your hands.

Never in history has a jealous person truly succeeded. A man was leading in a 1000-meter race. After running 200 metres, he looked back and saw that the rest were after him and he ran on. After 500 meters, he looked back again and was happy that he was still leading and ran on. Every few meters he did the same thing and finally won the race. If the man had not looked back and concentrated only on running faster, he would have won the race in a much shorter span of time, and that would have been real success!

In life too, our concentration is always on others, never fully on our progress. We never fully live our own lives. Mahaveera says, 'When we come into this world, we bring with us all the shakti - energy - needed for our lifetime. God does not send us empty handed.' We spend this energy on watching others' activities and others' desires. When you are at home, your mind will say, 'It is enough if I have a home and a car for myself.' Your mind will be relaxed with this thought. When you step out in your car and stop by at a traffic light, the Mercedes Benz that pulls up alongside your car with a jolt, will jolt the relaxed state of your mind! Again, you start working out the desires of the Benz car owner. You start thinking it would be nice to have a Benz car. It was never your original desire. You simply borrowed it from the Benz car owner, that's all!

We will never meet failure if we live our lives by competing with ourselves. Win yourself with yourself, never with others. Every minute of comparison with others is a waste of time in your own progress. A great problem in the rat race is that even if you win, you are only a rat! Lock yourself in a room and analyze how much of time and energy you waste in comparison with others; more than 60% I am sure. We talk of conserving petrol, water and electricity. What about conserving our own energy?

Don't seek it, give it

We are all the time seeking others' love and opinions. A mother may say, 'I work all morning in the kitchen to prepare for my son's school and I eat only after he leaves for school.' All of this is to get a 'good mother' signature from the son. All our activities are nothing but a signature campaign. The husband asks for a 'good husband' signature from the wife, the brother asks for a 'good brother' signature from the sister and so on. If you look deeply into your activities, you will see that the focus of your entire life is on how to get attention or good opinion from others. All of us make statements such as 'I haven't done harm to even an ant. I love the whole world.' It is easy to love a nation but difficult to love your neighbor. When you say that you love the nation, you don't have to do anything tangible to prove it, because 'nation' is something abstract; it is not a clear representation. But when you say you love your neighbor, you have to do something tangible to prove it, and there comes the problem! Don't turn this statement on your neighbor, I am telling this to you!

Because we don't know who we are, we depend so much on others' opinions and think that what they think and say about us is what we really are. When a parcel goes to Mumbai, there is a label on it saying 'Mumbai'. Like this, each person puts a label on you. The labels may be 'you are dark', 'you are rich', 'you are intelligent', 'you will not prosper' and so on. You collect all these labels and make an average of them and conclude that that is what you are. You score yourselves with others' marks. What will happen if someone decides to put minus 20 on you? You fail! In order not to fail what do you do? You go around bending to each person's whims. The truth is, your life is kept as a gamble with others, and their lives kept with you.

Your life becomes a castle that is built with cards. You get a card from your father, and make it a building block of your castle. You get cards from your mother, husband, sister, brother and so on and build the castle with them. If anyone decides to remove his or her card, the castle will collapse. In order to maintain the castle, we ward off anyone trying to remove a card. Suddenly in this whole process of warding off, our own hands fall on the castle and the castle collapses. This collapse is what the world calls 'depression'.

The husband takes a big bowl and begs for attention from his wife and vice versa. When people don't respond, we feel that they are not giving us their attention. A mother-in-law and daughter-in-law fight all day in the house, yet cannot stay without each other! Why? They enjoy the attention they are getting from each other all day. Attention is like an addiction. It is as bad as drug addiction. Why do we crave for attention? We crave for it because attention is equal to energy. If 100 people cast their attention on you, that much energy is fed to you and you feel rejuvenated. That is the secret! It could be positive attention or negative attention, it doesn't matter. If there are 1000 people assembled when a politician goes on the dais, his speech will be on a certain plane, and if there are 1 lakh people assembled, his voice and his promises will be on a higher plane!

When the energy in us is low, we crave for attention. If our energy is high, we will start giving attention to others. Meditation can increase the energy level in us so that instead of craving for love and attention, we become a source of love and attention to those around us.

JUST FLY!

You are designed to fly

At Angkor Wat, Cambodia in 2007.

AGerman troupe after the second world war left an open aircraft in a mountainous village and left. The village people had never heard of an aircraft, nor seen the likes of it. They gathered around it and started speculating as to what it might be. Thoughts and imagination poured out. One man concluded by logic that it was a bullock cart. The rest agreed and they started using it as a bullock cart. Six months passed and a young boy returned to the village after his education. He inspected the aircraft and discovered that it had certain gear mechanisms. He accidentally started the engine and got the vehicle to move. He drove it around a few times and declared that it was a tractor! The villagers agreed and started using it as a tractor from then on. Yet another 6 months later, a retired army officer came to the village and saw what was happening. He had a mighty laugh and told the villagers that it was actually an aircraft, capable of flying in the air! He flew it and showed it to them. The villagers then realized how drastically they had underused the vehicle all those days.

Our body is a gift from God. Most of us use it as a bullock cart or as a tractor. Some of us even use it as a hand cart! Those of us who associate ourselves with mostly external things like a home, a car and other basic amenities, use our bodies as a bullock cart. Those of us who also move into art, creativity, philosophy and such things involving our heart, use our bodies as a tractor. We will find a certain fulfillment in ourselves. A poet who has given birth to a poem will be happier than a woman who has given birth to a child. In the latter case, the womb is centered in the stomach whereas in the former it is centered in the heart! The man who enters into spirituality and develops a thirst for spirituality and the Truth, and finally becomes an enlightened person, uses his body as an aircraft!

What should we do to use our body as an aircraft? The difference between the army officer and the villagers is knowledge of the mechanisms of the aircraft. In the same way, there are mechanisms inside us called the chakras. A man who has no knowledge of these mechanisms moves slowly on the ground, whereas an enlightened person who knows the art and science of them, flies. You are designed to fly!

A glimpse of reality

In Tantra, Lord Shiva has given a meditation technique nearly 5000 years ago. In Tantra, it has been said that no human is fully man or fully woman. A man is 51% male and 49% female, and a woman is 51% female and 49% male. What he has said at that time, biology has proved through hormones today. There is only a single hormone difference between man and woman. If we could be born from only a man, or from only a woman, we could be fully man or woman, but it is not so. We are born from the muladhara chakras - sex energy centers of a man and a woman. From this arises the concept of Ardhanaareeshwarar - the Lord whose form is half man and half woman.

From the day we are born, we suppress all aspects of the lesser half in us. Society teaches us the qualities of the 51% part in us. It suppresses the 49% in us. A man is not meant to possess qualities of compassion, care and motherhood, and similarly, a woman is not meant to possess qualities like bravery and strength.

What happens to this suppressed half in us? A man searches to fulfill this suppressed part outside of him because man came from fulfillment and his inherent nature is also attaining fulfillment. This search becomes lust towards women. Lord Shiva says, 'The woman outside you does not disturb you. It is the woman inside that disturbs you.' All that is being said applies to both man and woman alike. At the age of 14, a boy starts collecting images of the women outside, and when he is 21, these images take a proper shape and serve as a base for him to search for his wife. In olden days, these images were collected from primarily one's parents. A boy naturally attracted towards the mother, would collect images from her, and a girl naturally attracted towards the father, would collect images from him. A boy expects care from his wife like the care he received from his mother, and likewise a girl from her husband.

Today, the scene is different. We collect images from media, and build expectations on them. When the gap between our image and reality increases, the tension starts. When this gap is reduced, the tension reduces. When tension mounts, the chain even breaks.

Today, even as early as 7 years of age, the images start getting loaded. Advertisement boards, Television, Radio and other media, know your weaknesses well. They touch these weak points and sell their products. There is rarely an advertisement without a female model. Take a toothpaste advertisement. Do men never brush their teeth? Take a car advertisement. 90% of drivers are men and yet the advertisement shows a female driver. Even a simple 'Pure magic cookies' advertisement shows only females. Media people are actually dream sellers. We collect all these images and try to consume them through dreams. Is it possible? Can your thirst for water be quenched by consuming salt? Your thirst will only increase! In this fashion we are buying and eating these images and the load on the muladhara chakra increases.

At 21, we start searching to find the reality that might match the image inside us. When we meet a person, we compare him or her with the image inside us, and invariably find that there is no match. At some point in time, what we see outside, seems like matching what is inside. But what happens? As the two people spend more time with each other, the matching slowly starts becoming a mismatch. . . !

When unmarried people train themselves to drop their imagination, they will be able to follow reality, instead of following images. They will be able to analyze clearly, calmly and fully, while selecting their life partner. Else, hormonal torture will make them select wrongly and they will struggle all through their lives. Married people should fully welcome the partner into their lives by dropping their images.

Lord Shiva says, 'A man can become Lord Shiva himself when he drops his images, and a woman can become Goddess Parvati - Lord Shiva's consort, by dropping her images.'