FEAR MANAGEMENT🔗

Let us first understand the root of fear, then we can see how to face the fears. All the fear related memories and conditionings directly impact the Swadishtana chakra or the Being center.

When we don’t have state, we try to hold on to status at any cost, even at the cost of being less than who we really are. There is nothing to hold on to once you are established in state. We identify our current state with the status and are afraid of losing it, because it would be a loss of your current state.

When you don’t want to let go, you become possessive. When you are possessive, either directly or indirectly you will harbor violence inside you. When it is actively expressed it will be anger or aggression, when it is passively experienced it will be deep depression and fatigue. Also the fear of losing the status will make you behave according to the rules of the status and not your true self. This gives rise to following fake morality and rules not only at work but in all aspects of society. The conditioning of fear that you receive and solidify in your inner space all through the growing up period plays on these fears in every aspect of your day to day life. All we need to undo this is a clear understanding of how this web of fear has got ingrained in us. A deep understanding about fear will make us courageous enough to face our fears.

Having a constant struggle to hold stuff is an indication of a possessiveness to hold stuff. When you are possessive, you will be remembering about even things in the garage. Even things under your control, you will be thinking about it. You will be constantly thinking about even things in your locker also.

Too much of possessiveness constantly creates fear. Aparigraha is the Sanskrit word for non possessiveness. When a person is non possessive, he is ready to take the risk. That is why all the majority of business people are risk takers. Only when you are non possessive you can do calculations. Usually doctors don't treat their own family because they will be too possessive. They can't see the truth, the objectivity will be lost. Same way when you are too possessive, you will not put that thing at stake.

Person who is too possessive about his life will not do anything that expands his life. He won't do anything that is risky. When you don't do anything that is risky, you are nothing more than a buffalo and you will be a vegetating couch potato.

All our fears are actually fears of death but under various disguises, that's all. Every single fear of ours is related to the fear of death, but in a convoluted way. Because it is convoluted, we don't see it as fear of death. Death is not something that happens at the end of our lives. It is something which is happening every moment of our lives. Every act of ours is unconsciously related to our fear of dying.

We are constantly avoiding the understanding and inevitability of death and living life superficially. We think death will never happen to us and hence we postpone living. With a clear understanding of death we can understand life itself. If we look deep inside, you will realize that most of us are not afraid of dying, but we are afraid that we haven't lived our lives enough. Continuously compromising for the sake of others and trying to live out a life that is not natural to us, trying to fit into a mould that society has prepared for us. All this leads to a lack of fulfillment.

The fear of life is what is reflected in the fear of death. All of us look for security continuously in our lives. But we say that we are looking for freedom. If we are looking for freedom, why are we looking for security? Why fear? As long as you have fear in you, you will look for security. All your fears are because you don't clearly know that there is nothing to lose. First of all understand that all small fears are mere projections of the ultimate fear of death. Second, don't resist the fear in you. No one can claim to be fearless. One can learn to handle fear without fear that's all.

Society is a name that we give our weakness. Society exists only in our mind as long as we allow and give it space inside us to exist. Society makes you afraid of your own self, of others and of the unknown. It makes you afraid of yourself with simple things like morality, names and forms, prestige and what not. These fears are your own imaginations. You give life to them by avoiding to look at them deeply and seeing that they are non existent shadows. The moment we are afraid of what others will say, we are guarding our ego. Fear is also the reason why people talk so much in social circles. If you just observe people, they will feel so compelled to say something form their side. They will feel that they have to say something or else the others will take them to be inadequate. So they say something, even if it doesn’t make any sense. All these are subtle manifestations of fear that are difficult for you to perceive.

Morality is nothing but a poor substitute for a lack of intelligence. When you act out of your own intelligence, you can be confident of yourself. But when you act out of rules and regulations, you can never be sure of yourself, because you are not yourself to start with! You are not centered in yourself, you are centered on the rules. People who preach morality are so deeply in fear of tripping because they are not sure of themselves, they are too shaky inside. Moralists live a superficial fearing and shallow life. So drop your fears and try to find your inner intelligence you inner voice your true nature. When you operate from your intelligence, there will be a certain purity in you. When you operate from the periphery, from moral codes, there will be no beauty or purity and spontaneity in you.

With a deeper understanding of fear one can learn to flirt with fear. It is usually your fears about fear that makes you afraid and weak. It is your imagination that you won't be able to handle a situation when it happens. When you lose something you think you own. Many times, you will notice that when that situation happens, you just glide through it. You come out of it. All that energy wasted in being afraid, suppressing and avoiding. The only way to come out of this is to consciously go through it, reliving it will relieve you from it. Consciously go through the visualization of losing everything that you don’t want to lose. Then these fears will never come up. If you see the statistics, 99 % of your fears never become reality anyways.

All fears are purely a play of the mind.

Now that we have a deeper understanding of fear, we need to bring about a psychological revolution to face fears and handle fears with intelligence and courage. The understandings will help you in un-clutching from the existing fears and the meditation technique will help in clearing the unconscious zone and will clear the blockages in the Being Energy Center or the Swadishtana Chakra.

In Sanskrit there is a beautiful word Bhairava. Bhairava means person who has gone beyond bhaya or beyond fear. In Sanskrit, you can give 25 meaning to a single word. Because language is poetic, not just prose. Bhairava Ramyate, means one who can flirt with fear. Fearlessness is suppressing fear. We also sometimes experience fearlessness. If you have noticed, when you are really shaken, when you have to cross some dark alley, you will start chanting god's name. It is only that time that you will think of God’s name. You really feel you don't experience fear, because your inner chattering is engaged with something else. When you engage you inner chattering in something else, you really feel you don't have fear or you don't experience fear. That is what we do when we repeat the mantras. Be very clear when you repeat mantras you divert your attention, you are not solving the fear. It is not that you overcame fear it is just that your inner chattering got distracted. When cats drink milk they close their eyes and the whole world will become dark. They think that nobody knows they are drinking milk. You are also doing the same thing just because when you chant some mantra, because you don't pay attention to the mantra, you feel you don't feel any fear and that fear has disappeared. Fearlessness does not mean non existence of fear.

It means fear will be there, you have tremendous energy or courage to live with it. You will be able to flirt with fear. You will have maximum fear and the Energy or courage to live with it. That is the quality of Bhairava. Bhairava does not mean he doesn't have fear, it means someone who can flirt with fear. He is not affected by fear. The very quality of life is fear. When people come and tell me i have fear of unknown. I tell them it means you are alive and there is a possibility of losing something. When you don't have any possibility you will never be afraid. Fear is very basic quality of life. You can be fearless if you are in graveyard. If you are already in graveyard, there is no need to be afraid of anything. You will have nothing to lose. If you have something to lose, you will have fear. Nothing can be done, that is the quality of life.

You should be neither attached with fear, nor detached with fear. Don't think if you are afraid of fears or if you are frightened about fears then you are detached from fears. It is one more kind of attachment. All detachment is one more kind of attachment. Negative way of attachment is detachment. If you are afraid of fear, you are again in fear. Your consciousness will be moving towards fear. Sometimes when you are energetic, when your hormonal pressure is high, you do things without intelligence, without thinking about result. That is what you call as courage. Be very clear, whatever you think as courage is not courage. You do not think about consequences. In hurry just when you run, you don't know what you are doing, and you just do it. You do not know what you have done, or you do not know what you want to do. You just run and finish it off. In a hurry you don't know what you are doing. And that is what you claim as courage, when your hormonal pressure is little more than your intelligence or logic, you do something which you claim as courage.

Real courage is to let go of your identity which you think as you, to relax from your identity which you again and again associate as you. Whether your money or relationship, whatever you think as your power. Whatever gives you power, as of now, the source for inspiration or source for power is only matter, your bank balance, education, house, relationships are all your I and Mine. You derive inspiration from your I and Mine, fear and greed. If you are deriving inspiration from your I and Mine, if your fear and greed or your properties are your identity and if they are a source for inspiration it means you are not too far from depression. If your fear is based on identity, you are nothing more than a puppet.

Be clear, at least in puppet show, puppets are handled by one man, in your show you are handled by 1000s of people. Anyone single person can put you in depression. One word is enough you are already in depression. If somebody asks 'are you mad', you shout and prove you are mad.

Whenever you feel that you are being possessive about something consciously decide to un-clutch from it or from that person. Sit and visualize life without that person or object. If you feel you can do without it, relax, nothing to worry. If you can't then sit and mediate on your life without that person. Create that pain. Allow that suffering. Start meditating on life without that person or object, let the pain rise in your inner space. Wait till it disappears, have patience, be silent till it disappears. By the time pain and suffering disappears, then you will have become mature.

At most you can suffer for few hours. Slowly depression will come down, pain leaves your inner space. When it leaves, you have already learnt the non-possessiveness. This is a powerful technique to achieve aparigraha when you expand your inner space through this pain. Understand this is very powerful technique. Whenever you feel you are possessive of something, disconnect and un-clutch.

Anything can be taken away from you. It is not that that person or product will be with you forever. No. It is just that you constantly try to possess the fear and pain of losing that person or object. Just mediate on non-possessiveness and be without that person or object, you will see that pain itself teaches you that you are free from pain, you are free from the possessiveness.

Miracles do not happen in your life because you plan for your life completely, thoroughly. Planning every step carefully is nothing but being possessive about life style. Living non seriously is plan for miracles. Living in playful way is plan for miracles. Understand, if you live little playfully, it is ok. If you live little non seriously you will attract so many miracles in your life. Person who lives a non serious way attracts again and again miracles in his life because he has got some inner space and outer space where Divine can intervene. Live little playfully. Do little less planning and you will see the miracles happening in your life. A person who is non possessive, not only will miracles be happening in his life. Anything happening in his life, he feels is a miracle because he does not possess anything. He does not take anything for granted. He does not claim anything is his birth right.

Understanding darkness can help us overcome fears. Meditating on darkness brings inner strength in you. Intense darkness and intense light are one and the same. Below certain frequency and above certain frequency you cannot see light. We may get light from stars. Light has a source. Darkness has no source. Anything that has no source is infinite. Darkness is not negative as we have been conditioned to believe.

Darkness is the whole, full potential. It is the whole energy out of which everything else arises, such as stars, light, the 5 elements of nature, etc. Ether, air, fire, water, earth are the 5 elements that are the contents of this darkness, this cosmos. This is the Cosmos. It is intense darkness, not intense light. Everything else that comes out of it is nothing but movements of colors. This means everything is a play of light and shadow. This cosmos, darkness is the base out of which different frequencies and wavelengths of energy which are in the form of the 5 elements arise. Darkness is permanent. Everything else flashes and disappears. That everything else is what we see as sun, moon, planets, life forms, animate, inanimate, etc. Darkness is not emptiness. It is pregnant with the whole potential possibilities and probabilities. It is intense, potent creative energy expressing itself in various frequencies and wavelengths. It is the intense, potent creative energy also meant to express itself in its unique ways through each of us. These elements in its myriad infinite forms are the various attributes, various forms of light and shadow. The intelligence is the source.

Also for any issues, you may have heard the popular saying, let me sleep over it. This is because when you do, and if you are able to relax into the darkness then you will see that the problem always comes embedded with the solution inside. We are able to see this only when we relax completely.

Your inner space needs a kind of silence once in a while. Utter silence relaxing into the deep darkness, causal body. But the fear of darkness will even reduce the quality of sleep. All fears are directly or indirectly related to this fear of darkness. Depression is outcome of your misunderstanding and fear of darkness. When you close your eyes, if you notice movement of colors or movement of light streaks then they are thoughts. Darkness is the base and everything else that is projected in this world or even in your dream world is the play of light and shadow or light and slide. Everything is light in different frequency and wavelengths. Even thoughts are your thought shafts in form of light with its own wavelength. When they become too much, you will experience them as a constant inner chatter or verbalization. Color of thoughtlessness is darkness. Color of no mind is darkness.

The reason for the sharpness in my eyes is because I lived in a place where there was no artificial light. I lived more than nine months without seeing any manmade light in the forest. My eyes got completely healed and returned back to nature, it's own nature. This technique is about bringing back your body back to nature. 80% of connection with world happens through our eyes. If your eyes are brought back to nature, 80% of your being will be brought back to nature. You will be connected to your roots.

I saw when I lived without lights, not only was I able to see in darkness, the number of thoughts has drastically reduced. That is one important thing. Try this very powerful technique. Lie down in bed and switch off light. Let it be utterly dark. Don’t fall asleep. You have to remain awake in darkness. Of course, in cities you can never have the complete darkness. Your eyes have to be open and it should be completely dark.

There are only 5 elements in the cosmos, the ether, air, fire, water and earth. The cosmos, space is the base material out of which all other 4 elements came out. That cosmos is nothing but darkness. The cosmos is not dead darkness. It is the darkness which is capable of giving birth to the whole cosmos, which was able to give birth to air, fire, water and earth. It means it is the motherly cosmic energy, darkness energy which is able to give birth to everything. It is the infinite potential energy out of which everything from stars, planets to things on the planets emerges as light and shadow.

Very wonderful experiences of opening up to nature will happen. Fear of whole will disappear. Many people are afraid to look into sky itself. When you look into the sky, it is like as if from a height 10th or 11th floor you are afraid to look down, because you feel someone is going to push you from behind. The moment you look down only you will feel. You know for sure there is a strong parapet wall. You feel as if somebody is going to push you from behind. Somebody is going to push you from behind. It is just fear. Fear of the openness. Always, for one moment you get a thought, why not disappear into that. Then you say no, no, no. I can’t disappear. Then it becomes fear. In the same way we have the fear of whole. The wholeness is an invitation for you to come back. Then you say, no, no, no, I don't want to come back. I want to hold on to this chair. That is the fear.

You will have the fear of the whole. I tell you. Relax. Feel connected to the whole. Connecting with the darkness will remove the fear of whole, the fear of disappearing. Fear of death will completely be healed. Your fear of death is nothing but the fear of darkness. Fear of unknown. Fear of unknown is nothing but fear of darkness.

In Tantra, first thing disciples are told for healing, is they are asked to go and sit in a forest or empty space and gaze at the emptiness. That is all. In Zen, the person will be asked to sit facing the wall and gaze at the wall. Under the vast open sky and whole night he has to gaze at the sky. You will see so many different moods and fears, everything coming up. Whatever you have suppressed everything will come up. Everything will open up. Important thing, if you have suppressed your need for rest, your desire to relax into silence then that suppression which has become restlessness in you will also come up. It will open up. It is like a whole thing will get cleaned. That opening up is like a fear. You mind will say 'No, no, no, no I don’t want to look into this darkness. I don’t want to see this darkness and you try to avoid.

A person who is centered on darkness will always be strong, very strong but non violent. Person who is centered on light who cannot relax in darkness will be violent, but weak. Violence is nothing but your action, which you are trying to cover that you are weak. A strong person will never be violent, because he doesn’t have to prove he is strong. But the weak guy will always be proving. He has t cover that he is weak, so he will always be proving.

A small story, one guy comes to a bar, drinks and goes out. Suddenly he comes back and shouts. Who is the idiot who threw paint on my car. A gigantic guy 6'9" stands up and says, ‘It’s me, what do you want?’

The first man is taken aback and sheepishly says, ‘oh, nothing, I just want to tell you first coat has dried’.

Civilizations built on having strength will always be non-violent. Civilization built on showing strength not having strength, will always be violent. Meditating on darkness will bring that inner strength to you. It will bring so many psychological changes. I can assure you that even your fears are nothing but movement of light inside you. If you can start being comfortable inside you with darkness inside you, suddenly you will see the movements of your fears reduce drastically. Drastically it will reduce, because number of thoughts will come down. Understand this one technique.

Meditation is nothing but consciously dropping into this darkness, into this whole space. This space is the causal body or the deep sleep state. Every morning after sleep you will not come back more intelligent. But every time you meditate, you come back more intelligent. Why? This is because you are clearing space in your system consciously. Meditation is to consciously clear the engraved memories and create space for the intuition or intelligence to flow through.

Depression is outcome of your misunderstanding and fear of darkness. At least a few thousand disciples have come out of depression and insomnia problem, just by this one technique which we will be doing to clear this energy center or Swadishtana chakra. I have seen people just transforming the quality of their sleep and day by practicing this technique only once. If quality of your sleep is improved, quality of your day will improve and you will have clear eyes, sharp eyes.

You need to have all these understandings, only then you will be able to meditate or visualize when you are entering into the darkness. This technique can help 3 things, chronic fatigue, insomnia and depression. All these 3 straightaway can be addressed and healed just by this one technique.

Simple experiments you can try. If you are constantly looking at light, at night time you won’t be able to sleep. Even if you close your eyes, too much will be going on inside you. But if you sat and gazed at empty sky at night time, you will see number of thoughts has reduced drastically. You are in kind of a silence. You are in kind of a settled mood. Before going to sleep or falling asleep visualize the intense darkness. See the darkness residing in you.

This technique has been taken from the Shiva Sutras

Close your eyes.

Second important step is closing the inside movement. We all know how to close our eyelids but not eyes. Closing eyes is different, closing eyelids is different. Closing eyes itself is different, but it is closing completely inside also. Usually, when you close your eyes, many things you will start seein.g on your inside TV. It will never be switched off. Constantly it will be going on. With open eyes you see outside but with closed eyes you see inside. That is the problem,

Close your eyes and completely stop inside. You will see intense darkness out of which you are born. See the darkness which was there in your mother's womb. It is the same darkness which you are still carrying in your inner space. One piece has come inside you. That is what we call life, it is the cosmic energy, ether which is there in your mother's womb. Out of cosmos the whole world came, one bit of cosmos energy is in your mother's womb out of which you came. When you came that one part from your mother's womb is already put in your inner space and that is there. When you close your eyes and stop seeing inside then you will see the intense darkness. Just be with that intense darkness at least for half an hour. When your mind wanders here and there, come back, get centered. Be with that darkness.

The dark room if you sit and close your eyes, you will be able to see darkness intensely inside means, you cannot allow thoughts moving inside. Thoughts are light. If the light movement or color change is stopped inside then you will see only darkness and thoughtlessness. Color of thoughtlessness is darkness. Color of no mind is darkness. From no mind, thoughts come. Same way from black color all other color comes. From darkness all other colors are coming. Color of thoughtlessness is darkness. Bring yourself to the thoughtless state. This means the intense darkness. Sit with the intense darkness for few moments.

After half an hour, open your eyes and bring that same darkness outside. This needs little training. It means with open eyes, seeing same scene which you saw inside, the darkness. See the same thing with intensity. This may take some practice. But if you can see he same darkness inside and outside, you will be able to switch off your mind whenever you want. The ability to switch off your mind whenever you need, liberates you from all problems, disorders related to mind such as insomnia, depression, over sleeping. All problems related to causal bodies will be completely healed. See the darkness inside and outside. You will see so much of healing happening inside.

By opening eyes, see the same darkness outside. It is little tricky. Seeing darkness with closed eyes may be easy. Seeing the same intense darkness with open eyes may be little difficult. You may have to train yourself, maybe for a month. It may take you a month to have that same darkness outside. You need to continuously throw that darkness out. Throw that darkness out. Means you need to bring that darkness outside. Visualize the darkness which is inside you is coming outside.

Meditating on darkness will bring you to the silence. No mind state. The darkness carries its own intensity. Meditating on darkness and resting in darkness is such powerful energy.

First thing don't be afraid of darkness. Second thing feel very friendly, connected to darkness. Darkness is the whole out of which things are created. Meditate on that intense darkness energy. Whether you want or not, everyday, you will fall into the darkness at least 3-4 hours in the deep sleep. If you sleep 8 hours, at least 4 hours in deep sleep. What you are experiencing in the deep sleep, same thing I am asking you to experience with consciousness. With consciousness, you are supposed to experience the same darkness.

Experience the same state which you are experiencing in the deep sleep, with consciousness with awareness. Experience the same silence, same rest, the same peace with awareness. In the deep sleep you have rest but not awareness. With this meditation it is like having the deep sleep with awareness, the restful awareness. Actually, with deep sleep and samadhi, there is only one difference. In deep sleep you don’t remember you exist. In samadhi you remember you exist, that is all. If you can add this one quality that you exist into the deep sleep then you are enlightened. Straightaway you are enlightened. Nothing else needs to be done. Nothing else is required.

The darkness, feeling connected to it is such a powerful thing. It can completely heal you and unlock the Swadishtana chakra or the Being energy center.