LESSON: 7🔗

Introduction: The attention-need, along with our dependency on others for survival, is what we experience as love with purpose.

Goals: To make them understand that love with conditions is not true love.

Click: Looking for attention.

About the topic: Expectations are the first enemy of love. When we ask for love, we are actually asking only for the person's attention. When we say a person doesn't love us, we actually mean that the other person doesn't give us enough attention. The basic need for any human being is attention from others. The attention-need, along with our dependency on others for survival, is what we experience as love. The person who is not satisfied, not confident, and not happy with themselves only will strive for attention from outside The dependency on the others might be psychological, physical or spiritual. The whole idea of love with a purpose is nothing but getting the attention of the others in some way. We love anyone who pays us compliments. We secretly nurture a good name with in the name of love. Like this there is always some hidden reason for our love with purpose. The relationship can also happen causelessly, without any reason. To experience this we have to try relating with someone for no reason. Only then we will understand that the experience of love is much more important than the object of love.

Assessment: ● How do you express love to others? ● What is attention need? ● When do we strive for attention? ● What is causeless love? Have you experienced it? ● What is termed as love with a purpose? ● Which is the enemy of love?

Evaluation: Evaluate how well they understood the topic by asking multiple questions.

Conclusion: Conclude the topic by reiterating the important details discussed. Expectations are the first enemy of love. The relationship can happen causelessly, without any reason. Only then we will understand that the experience of love is much more important then the object of love.

Material required: ● Chart paper ● Scissors ● Sketch pens and/or Color pencils, Crayons

Preparation: Each person should get a chart paper cut into a heart shaped card. There should be enough colouring materials for everyone to share.

Discussion: Talk about the term “Causeless Love” – Love without a purpose.

What it means and how to try it out with the people you meet.

You can give an example of a new student coming to join their class, and with no ulterior motives or purpose, what is something you could to make him/her feel comfortable and welcome?

Ask each child for examples.

The beautiful thing about causeless love is that although you are helping someone or giving someone love, for no personal gain: you are giving yourself love as well! Through loving others, you receive love too. And it heals you from feeling restless.

How can you feel uncomfortable when you are busy helping someone else?

Feeling uncomfortable or shy is just thinking about yourself, worrying about what other people are thinking about you! But if you love someone else, you open your heart to give love, and you receive love through being open!

“Love is meant to be shared!”

“Love was not meant to stay in your heart, love is not love until you give it away!”

Explain that as an activity for causeless love, we are going to make a card, and give it away to a complete stranger!

Why?

# LOVE

Because that is a form of causeless love; giving something from your heart.

With no purpose other than you love them as another being in this universe and want to make the whole world happy!

Love is contagious, love is like a smile.

Smile at someone, not just with your face, but with your heart, and they will feel the love and in turn smile at others. I believe we could make the whole world a happier place if we sent smiles all over the world creating positive energy!

Allow each one to colour and decorate their card, and give their gift away to a complete stranger and come back with their story of whom they gave it to, and how it made them feel!

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