The definition of Love
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September 20, 2010
Let me define love.
Love is not in any way related to two physical structures.
Love is not in any way related to even your own physical structure!
It is not even related to the mental qualities you carry.
It is related to the awareness you carry.
If two physical structures feel they are connected, it is called infatuation.
If one or more mental structures feel connected, it is attachment. When awareness overlaps beyond the physical and mental structures, it is called love.
Now scan all your relationships with this understanding. Suddenly you will see that all the problems related to your love, relationship, friendliness, possessiveness, and worry, is just disappearing. Your marriage will become a honeymoon. It will become a beautiful living relationship.
One of our brahmacharis wrote a poem when I was put in prison: This is the same thing we do forever. When they are alive, we throw stones at them, put them in the prison. When they are no more in the body, we make golden statues and put them in the temple.
We do the same thing in life.
When the relationship is alive, living, we are in fear thinking, I don’t know when it will disappear, when she may disappear, or when I may lose the love!
So we kill the love, put it in a frame, call it as marriage, and put it in the reception room.
The smile which is shown in the family photograph never ever happens again with the same physical nearness.
Even at that moment, maybe that photographer would have shouted, Smile please!
With a lot of uneasiness, your smile was brought out.
This is because we do not understand love.
I can say, there are thousands of relationships which are perversions, and thousands of problems which are nothing but perversions of relationship problems. When the relationship is not fulfilled, suddenly, anything she does or he does irritates you. This is what I call perversions of relationship problems.
Fill all your relationships with this understanding.
Sit and scan, ‘What is my relationship with my father? How is it? What is my relationship with my mother? How is it? What is my relationship with my spouse? How is it? What is my relationship with my brother? How is it? What is my relationship with my friends? How is it? What is my relationship with the world? How is it?
I have seen people wasting years just with their relationship with their dog! It is not love, it is not love! It is just foolish infatuation, a very third-grade perverted infatuation. I tell you having a pet deity, ishta devata, is a thousand times better than having a pet dog. But because people lack understanding, somehow, having a pet dog has become a fashion, while having an ishta devata is considered old-fashioned, outdated!
If you know real love, then you will start radiating healing energy. Healing does not mean just healing physical diseases. Healing does not means that you will just put your hand on some sick person somewhere, and that person will come out of his leg pain, stomach pain, head ache or cancer. No! First, put your hand on your own head! Heal all the headaches you have, and which you give to others. This is the healing stick that I am giving to all of you: the understanding about love.