Give your child the ultimate security
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03 April, 2012
Question: My spouse and I argue a lot. Will this hurt our children? What can we do to avoid hurting them?
Arguing is nothing but being unable to come to terms with the other person. It is not that you are unable to come to terms with the situations. No! Understand, you are not able to come to terms with the other person.
You are asking, how this will hurt our children?! It is going to bring tremendous damage and hurt to your children. One great thing which happened in my life was - I never saw my father abusing my mother either verbally or physically. Of course he never abused her physically. Very rarely there will be some verbal fights. But he will always make sure it never happens in front of us.
I tell you, I still feel grateful to my
father for this one thing. Just
because of that, I can see very
clearly, how beautifully my inner
space got built and how much of
respect I have for both of them.
See, respect for the parents means
respect for the one thousand and
one good things they taught you.
This was what gave me the
courage to break the parental
conditioning.
When kids see parents fighting, they lose trust on life and their risk-taking ability is broken. They are put into the fear psychosis of oh, if I don't behave, I may not have a place here. To run a home, you need to give a complete safe and secure feeling. Don't argue in front of the kids.
Children lose respect for life and experience incompletion with life itself when they see parents fighting! When they carry the wound of seeing parents fighting, they feel incomplete with the father or the mother and they carry so much of incompletion inside them towards life. When they see both of you sharing a beautiful love, they feel so fulfilled, they feel complete and fulfilled.