COMPARISON AND JEALOUSY AND IT'S NEGATIVE IMPACT ON ONE'S SELF EXPRESSION

Jealousy does not allow you to experience your true nature of love and bliss. It arises out of misunderstanding of life and yourself. We think love is a quantity that needs to be shared. That is why we are afraid, thinking that if we share our love our share will be reduced. Love is a quality inside us.

It is not a limited quantity. When we compare ourselves with others we think others are superior or inferior to us that reduces the chances of loving them. We always try to prove ourselves to others. We always think about how others will perceive us.

When we compare with others we try to forget best qualities of our own.

We will excel and achieve in everything when we do work as passion and when we are not comparing ourselves with others. When we are happy with ourselves it enhances our own personality and confidence. We are very creative when we are more open. Everyone is different because everyone is special. If you see people who have achieved great heights in life they surely would have accepted themselves as they are, happy with what they have, would have done workout of passion.

GOALS

To make the kids aware of
the fact that comparing with
other's affects our own
personality

ASSESSMENT

Name your unique qualities

What is your passion?

What is your goal?

When are you more creative?

What happens when you compare with others?

A piece of paper with a heart sun drawing and a pencil

CONCLUSION

If you accept yourself just as
you are, you can accept
others as they are

ART OF THE DAY

DRAWING WITH EYE CLOSED AND EYES OPEN

MATERIALS NEEDED

Paper

Pencil or sketch pen

PROCEDURE

Encourage the children to draw any picture or shape first with eyes open and then with eyes closed and compare both the pictures.

INFERENCE

Even though the same person is drawing both the pictures with the same pencil or sketch pen, both the pictures will not look alike; when there is so much of a difference between the same person's activities, we cannot compare ourselves with others.

A person dressed as Krishna with a microphone and stars nearby

ACTIVITY OF THE DAY

PLAY DOUGH

MATERIALS NEEDED

1. Play dough

2. Different kinds and sizes of cookie cutters

PREPARATION:

Give each child enough play dough. Encourage children to use the

different kinds and sizes of cookie cutters and make different

structures out of play dough and compare the structures

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COMPARISON IS RESISTANCE

VOLUME 7

THE SPH NITHYANANDA PARAMASHIVAM

COMPARING

iS

RESISTING

INTRODUCTION

Comparing is resisting, when we compare we fall into fear -'poor me', or greed 'I am right'. Comparing is a huge traffic jam happening in our thought process it does not let us be spontaneous.

The understanding of uniqueness is oneness. It is like our hand has a unique function but is still part of whole body.

We are part of whole intelligence even
though we are unique in our own
expression and experience. So with this
right understanding we can apply it to
our situations.

For the situation, we face we have two options: We can place our ego in wrong place and complicate ourselves. If we understand the situation and accept the solution we can change our belief-to-be life. If we accept the situation positively we get the solution. Complaining is to resist. We resist every moment, that's why we cannot sit with ourselves.

We look at situations like a view, when we change the perception, the dimension of the view changes; like in a kaleidoscope when we change the angle we get various new images. Like in the optical illusion we need to understand the hidden knowledge (or) message in every issue; we can shift to the new world of understanding that others are uniquely a part of us. The mind can grow like a wild fire only in comparison, but during comparison we only grow to the extent of whom or what we compare.

A balance scale with a heart icon above it

The mind can grow like a wild fire only
in comparison, but during comparison
we only grow to the extent of whom or
what we compare. Mind fails to exist
without comparison. If the bottleneck is
cleared with the understanding of
uniqueness, 100% of energy and
experience can enrich you. Because of
perception of reality we cannot see
something which we did not know
before.

We are all already, always listening to the inner chatter in the mind that's why we are not able to listen to others.

We look at each other only through our right eye because we use only our right brain. If we start looking using our left eye to see other people, we will not judge that person; we will be very nice to them. We use our right brain when we see through our left eye. We will be heart-oriented, we will not complain about the other person.

GOALS

To make the children
understand that comparing is
resisting and to cause them
to move towards unclutching
and flowing with life.

ASSESSMENT

🌸 What is comparing?

🌸 What happens when we compare?

🌸 Relate comparison with traffic jams.

🌸 What is oneness?

🌸 What is the best way to tackle the situation?

🌸 How we can change our belief?

🌸 Jealousy is a misunderstanding of what?

CONCLUSION

When we accept who we are,
we can accept others as they
are. We will stop proving
ourselves to others and just
be who we are

ART OF

THE DAY

ART OF THE DAY

MIRROR IMAGE

MATERIALS NEEDED

Paper

Sketch (or) Pencil

Mirror picture or object.

PROCEDURE Keep a picture or object in front of the mirror and ask each child to see the image in the mirror and draw the picture on the paper with pencil or sketch

INFERENCE: When we keep on comparing ourselves with others we can never be fulfilled, we can never enjoy the beauty of existence.

ACTIVITY OF THE DAY

MIRROR THE OTHER PERSON

GOAL To make the children understand the topic of comparing

PREPARATION Introduce the children to the game and then encourage the children to play the game with lots of focus

PREPARATION: Ask each child to stand in pairs, each one facing each other. Ask one child to do some actions, perhaps move some body parts; ask the other child in that pair to follow the same-mirror the other person's activity. We can ask each child to take turns and play this game.

A portrait of a deity in a turban making a hand gesture

INTERPRETATION

Connect the activity to the concept of comparing. How we see others, compare ourselves with others and how continuously we judge others and try to prove ourselves with others and get confused.

KAILASA's NITHYANANDA RAJAVIDYA GURUKUL Presents

YOU ARE NOT WHO YOU THINK YOU ARE

VOLUME 8

THE SPH NITHYANANDA PARAMASHIVAM

Illustration of a person with a thinking bubble

YOU ARE NOT
WHO YOU
THINK YOU
ARE

© 2020 Sri Nithyananda Paramashivam
All Rights Reserved
Source: Nithyanandapedia.org

INTRODUCTION

All our comparison with other people begins with what we think of ourselves. Jealousy disappears when we understand our uniqueness. We may then create another problem. We may believe ourselves to be so special that we start taking ourselves far too seriously.

Seriousness is nothing but paying undue
importance to something, at the cost of
everything else

It arises from the inability to see that all of life is just a drama that is unfolding every minute. Seriousness closes your mind to the openness and freedom of life. It curbs your thinking and makes you stick to the familiar patterns that you know and use all the time.

Perfectionism always comes from your mind. It becomes a goal for you. When you work towards it as a goal it becomes mundane.

© 2020 Sri Nithyananda Paramashivam. All Rights Reserved But when you are total, when you are established in your heart, it becomes a deep experience. Perfectionism never gives you joy. It only fulfills your eye. Perfectionism is never possible because it is in your mind and your mind keeps on changing its definition of perfection

GOALS

Make them aware of the
concept of Seriousness and
perfectionism Vs Sincerity

ASSESSMENT

What happens when we think we are very special?

When does jealousy disappear?

What is seriousness?

Have you felt serious about anything?

What was it and when?

What would be your goal?

What is perfectionism?

ASSESSMENT

Does perfectionism give you joy?

Is perfectionism possible?

Can anybody define themselves as perfect?

Is there anybody perfect in the world?

How would you feel when you achieve your goal?

What do we need to do to achieve our goal?

CONCLUSION

Discover your uniqueness by dropping comparing and dropping resistance to who you are now.

ART OF THE DAY

CHAKRA DRAWING

MATERIALS NEEDED

Picture of Ajna Chakra, Paper, Pencil (or) Sketch.

Ajna - Ego - Seriousness Ajna chakra, which is located between the eyebrows. In Sanskrit, Ajna means 'will' or 'order'. The Ajna chakra is known as the Master Chakra. This chakra is locked by seriousness and ego and it can be made to flower by innocence, simplicity and intelligence, and by shedding all forms of ego.

The Ajna chakra is concerned with ego, with seriousness, we thinking too much about ourselves and therefore taking life too seriously

PROCEDURE

Talk to the children about the Ajna
Chakra and show the picture of the Ajna
Chakra to the children. Encourage the
children to see the picture of Ajna
Chakra and draw the chakra.

ACTIVITY OF THE DAY

WATER PACKETS HOLDING ON THE

THOUGHTS

MATERIALS NEEDED

1. Clean water packets

2. Water

3. Tub

PREPARATION:

Have enough water packets so that everyone will get a chance to get a

turn. Fill each packet with water, and keep extra water in the tub

PRESENTATION:

✓ Gather everyone around and show them the activity.

✓ Talk about thoughts. What happens when we are full of thoughts? We are weighed down in our minds and hearts because of all the inner chatter that is going on inside. We can't think very clearly.

✓ The water packet illustrates our mind, the water is our thoughts. When we hold on to our thoughts, we are filling ourselves full of nonsense. But if we realize what we are doing, we should just release it, squeeze it out and be empty.

Only then great things will happen. Drop the mind and be free, un-clutch the thoughts one at a time and all inner chatter will disappear and bliss will enter our lives instead.

ACTIVITY:
Demonstrate how to squeeze the water
out of the packets and have the thoughts
behind, leave the water packet also
illustrating how we can drop the mind
and go on to do great things

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Portrait of The SPH Nithyananda Paramashivam

LIFE IS BEYOND LOGIC

VOLUME 9

THE SPH NITHYANANDA PARAMASHIVAM

LiFE iS
BEYOND
LOGiC

INTRODUCTION

Have the courage to make mistakes. But also learn from past mistakes and avoid repeating mistakes.

Serious people are always afraid to make mistakes. Actually those people who are afraid of making small mistakes end up making big blunders.

Actually when you make a mistake and when people point it out, you are unable to bear it. Your ego gets hurt. So to avoid getting your ego hurt, you try your best not to make mistakes.

There is nothing wrong with making mistakes. In fact by making a few mistakes, you can come to know how to avoid making mistakes, because you have experientially understood it.

The more you learn from mistakes, the more you know about how not to make mistakes.

A person dressed as Lord Shiva sitting on a golden throne with a depiction of Lord Shiva in the background

Do things to the best of your intelligence and enthusiasm but without worrying about whether you might make a mistake. Also, you must learn from your mistakes or those of others. It is not good to repeat the same mistakes. When you are not so concerned about your ego getting hurt, you will have the courage to take any jump.

Life is beyond our
logic. Most of us
unconsciously believe
that life is filled with
incidents that are
under the control of
logic. But life reminds
us, again and again the
truth; that life is
beyond our logic.

GOALS

To make them aware of the
fact that life is beyond our
logic, encourage taking
sensible risks and learn from
past mistakes and not repeat
them. Keep on expanding till
you reach your state space
and express Powers of
Paramashiva

ASSESSMENT

🌸 How would you feel when somebody points out your mistakes?

🌸 Do you have the courage to make mistakes? Is it ok to make mistakes?

🌸 Can we learn from our mistakes?

🌸 Can we repeat the same mistakes again?

🌸 What are the common mistakes we make?

ASSESSMENT

🌸 Can we predict things in our lives?

🌸 What are the things we learn from our mistakes?

🌸 What would happen when you think you are the best and that nobody is superior to you?

CONCLUSION

Have the courage to make
mistakes, learn from your
mistakes, be free from ego
and act with freedom and
courage.

ART OF THE DAY

SENSES DRAWING

MATERIALS NEEDED

Paper

Paint with vinegar

Vanilla or any essence mixed in them.

PROCEDURE:

Encourage each child to draw pictures using paint mixed with

Vinegar, vanilla or any other aromatic materials mixed in it.

ACTIVITY OF THE DAY

WATER PACKETS HOLDING ON THE

THOUGHTS

Talk to your teacher or your
parent about three mistakes
that you made in the recent
past and also share what or
how you learnt some thing
from these mistakes

Portrait of Sri Nithyananda Paramashivam

KAILASA's NITHYANANDA RAJAVIDYA GURUKUL Presents

WE ARE A COLLAGE OF OTHERS

VOLUME 10

THE SPH NITHYANANDA PARAMASHIVAM

WE ARE A
COLLAGE OF
OTHERS

INTRODUCTION

We usually pick up a mixture of different personality traits and qualities from society, our friends and our family. We are all a mirror of others. We pick what we like in others and project it into ourselves. Every action we do is not our pure actions, but only a reflection of others action. We do not know who we are exactly because everybody has an influence of others in them. Each of our qualities (bad or good), or mannerisms if you see clearly, will definitely mirror somebody's influence.

You are not exactly who you are, we are only a mirror of others. That's why we are called collage of others. We need to be in the place where people have higher intelligence. When we live in the place where people have attitude problems we will pick it up unconsciously. We must be aware of the fact we must not pick any negative things from anybody. We have to understand who we pick up the patterns from.