WHAT IS TRUE LOVE?
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In real life, we always look to express our love towards others in some tangible way. Only if love is demonstrated in tangible form, it is considered to be love nowadays.
True love is like a communion. It is a resonance between two beings. It can be felt without any expression. It doesn't need communication because it is already happening as a communion. If you really love a person, then your very body language will show it.
It will be too much to express in
words. You will feel that any
words are inadequate and will
only bring down the love that you
feel. But if you are using words,
then somewhere the love has not
really happened. When you have
to speak to express love, then
somewhere there is a lie in it! You
are using the words just to
decorate the lie.
Real love liberates because it doesn't compel you to express it all the time. It just is. Real love also gives you the freedom to freely express what you want to express. You can easily express anything like disapproval or anger and it will not be mistaken for reduced love. Not only that, with real love, there will be no domination or power play in relationships. Each person will be like a beautiful flower that has blossomed to radiate its unique fragrance, that's all. With real love, there will be no fear or insecurity either.
In normal love, physical distance
between two people causes a lot of
insecurity and a lack of trust. Real
love doesn't look for utility. It
operates on sheer trust and is also
beyond space and time. These days
people are gifting each other with so
many things to show their love.
Gifting has become an expression of
love. If the gifting happens as
causeless overflowing, it is okay. We
are totally relaxed anywhere in the
world.
BUT iF iT iS A CONDITiON TO BE
FULFiLLED, iT BECOMES A
PROBLEM! THEN iT BECOMES A
POOR SUBSTiTUTE FOR REAL
LOVE. AS LONG AS REAL LOVE iS
THERE, NO RELATiONSHiP CAN
BECOME BORiNG.
Causeless overflowing love is always total in its expression. It doesn't carry the usual dilutions of greed or fear. So any person whom you love, you will love totally without any reservations. Irrespective of the way he is, you will love him.
When you love this way, even if the person leaves your life, you will not grieve. When a person passes away, you grieve only because you regret not having loved him completely. You can love him completely only when your love itself is complete.
It doesn't have to do anything with the other person. It doesn't matter what kind of person he is. That is the beauty of real love.
IT LOVES FOR THE SAKE OF
LOVE, NOT FOR THE SAKE OF
THE OTHER PERSON.
If you are grieving for the loss of a person, be very clear, you are grieving because you missed loving him in totality. If you had loved him in totality, you would say good-bye to him with complete restfulness, not with grief. You grieve only because you missed something somewhere.
Even if it is your own father or husband
or wife, it is the same. If you had radiated
your causeless love to them when they
were alive, then when they left there
would not be any regret. But if you had
loved them with rationalizations, then
when they left, the incompleteness of
your love towards them would create a
hangover, and that hangover is what you
feel as grief.
