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WHAT LOVE IS?

The very openness which is necessary to experience love, can also make one feel extremely vulnerable. This gives rise to the fear of being exploited or cheated by the other person. This wrong conditioning about love becomes a big obstacle to experiencing love. If someone strongly believes that his or her love will end in pain, they will see that it will end in pain. They will be waiting for it to end in pain.

THE RIGHT

UNDERSTANDING

ABOUT LOVE WILL HELP

TO GO WITH THE

FLOW OF LOVE AND

EXPERIENCE REAL LOVE.

When love happens, one should simply be in love without worrying about where it will lead, or whether one will be exploited or betrayed by the other person. Only then will one be able to experience love as the transcendental and transformational experience it really is.

STRATEGY FOR LiFE

Take the responsibility for love. That is where a relationship starts. Do not say ‘I love you’ to anybody unless you are ready to take the responsibility to fulfil their expectations about you, without bothering whether they are ready to fulfil your expectations or not.

Even if others’ expectations from you is limiting you or them, you need to expand, stretch yourself to fulfil them first. Then make them understand that they need to expand; not before that. Only then they will understand their inauthenticity. Others are ready to listen about their inauthenticity from you only when you first prove that you are authentic.

The energy which you use to defend yourself from others and the energy that you need to stretch yourself to others’ expectations, both are one and the same. You need less energy to stretch yourself to fulfil others’ expectation than constantly defending yourself from others. Even a glimpse of love makes you expand yourself for more and more love. The best strategy plan for your life is the decision to love and build relationships!

There are two kinds of love:

Horizontal love is like a horizontal line, flat. It is related to time: it starts and ends. Anything that starts must end. If it takes more time to end, don't think it is permanent. Anything that starts must end. It may take a few years or a few months, but it ends. It is impermanent and time bound. This is horizontal love.

Vertical love is related to

consciousness. Vertical love

neither starts nor ends. It does not

discriminate. It is our very quality.

It flows.

In real life, we always look to express our love towards others in some tangible way. Only if love is demonstrated in tangible form, it is considered to be love nowadays.

True love is like a communion. It is a resonance between two beings. It can be felt without any expression. It doesn't need communication because it is already happening as a communion. If you really love a person, then your very body language will show it.

Real love liberates because it doesn’t compel you to express it all the time. It just is. Real love also gives you the freedom to freely express what you want to express. You can easily express anything like disapproval or anger and it will not be mistaken for reduced love. Not only that, with real love, there will be no domination or power play in relationships. Each person will be like a beautiful flower that has blossomed to radiate its unique fragrance, that’s all. With real love, there will be no fear or insecurity either.

Causeless overflowing love is always total in its expression. It doesn't carry the usual dilutions of greed or fear. So any person whom you love, you will love totally without any reservations. Irrespective of the way he is, you will love him.

When you love this way, even if the person leaves your life, you will not grieve. When a person passes away, you grieve only because you regret not having loved him completely. You can love him completely only when your love itself is complete.

It doesn't have to do anything with the other person. It doesn't matter what kind of person he is. That is the beauty of real love.

If you are grieving for the loss of a person, be very clear, you are grieving because you missed loving him in totality. If you had loved him in totality, you would say good-bye to him with complete restfulness, not with grief. You grieve only because you missed something somewhere.

Even if it is your own father or husband or wife, it is the same. If you had radiated your causeless love to them when they were alive, then when they left there would not be any regret. But if you had loved them with rationalizations, then when they left, the incompleteness of your love towards them would create a hangover, and that hangover is what you feel as grief.

Love the ultimate healing energy. Love is not any way related to two physical structures, it is not even related to your own physical structure, it is not even related to the mental qualities you carry. Love is related to awareness you carry.

the awareness you carry naturally spreads its smell in your mental structure & your body. So the awareness which your physical structure experiences if that feels connected to the awareness of some physical structure is called infatuation.

Love is a mystical power, it's a mystical capability.

If you are able to show love a little bit once in a while it is a social emotion but ever loving, radiating love, is mystical power. Ability to love will happen in you only when you are able to be in the space of Completion.

Most of the time you think the external world is responsible for your incompletion.

Understand, the External world, fully or partly, or even a little bit is not responsible for your incompletions. Incompletion by its very nature starts sprouting, growing, establishing itself only in your inner space its roots never come to the external world.

This means, many times others forgive you and forget you, because you are not that big a guy, but you cannot forgive you, because for you, you are a big guy. Many times they just forget the incompletions related to you. Many times they don’t care but you don’t forgive you, you don’t forgive you because you are too big for you. Many times they just forget the incompletions related to you. Many times they don’t care but you don’t forgive you, you don’t forgive you because you are too big for you.

The ability, ability to forgive yourself is the first quality to start loving. Only if you can forgive yourself, if you can complete with yourself, love starts. Only then love starts expressing itself, love starts happening in you. Love can happen only when you are in the space of completion. The ability to forgive yourself, ability to love yourself, ability to live with yourself, ability to be with yourself, it's actually a power.

We always see only the superficial love, superficial love of rose and the bird feeding the baby bird. bird feeding the baby bird can be like showing the love once in a while. But a lion training the cub to hunt, lion making the cub to realize its potential, its possibility, that is the real love, making every individual realize. Showing love to your weaker side is what society, made you understand as Love.

But you neither co-operate nor enjoy that kind of love, because you were never given the idea, impression, that is Love.

Love should be given to strengthen your completion side. Love should be given to strengthen your right side. Love should be given to strengthen your right space. But, unfortunately, you always enjoy, entertain, expect, attract, reciprocate, only to the love given to your wrong side.

LOVE SERIES

VOLUME I

THE SPH NITHYANANDA PARAMASHIVAM

LOVE ?

Whenever we look at something, the first thing we do is to calculate what we can get from it. It can be a person or an object, that doesn't matter. Our thoughts start functioning either through fear or through greed to calculate what there is in the situation for us. Our attention is centered on that object or person.

It is possible to turn our attention towards our own inner space and ask, 'What can I contribute?', 'What can I add?', 'How can I enrich others?' If the process is only to ask, 'What can I get out of it?' then it is driven by lust. If the process asks, 'How can I enrich it?' it is driven by love! Lust is an energy that demands. Love is an energy that gives.

Love is an intense experience in one's inner space. Many of us think love is a choice. We think experience and expression of love are a choice. We think that if we want to, we can handle love; otherwise we can let it go. No! It is not a choice as we think. It is a basic necessity of life. It is notjust breathing and staying alive. Being alive at the innermost being level, as a live Consciousness. If you can express love, if you can experience love, that is the only way of being alive as a Consciousness. If you don't experience and express love, you may inhale and exhale, but you can't say you are a live being. There are so many animals, plants and other things that breathe day in and day out. You will continue to exist like them.

Bring an understanding to the child, of the feeling of love, sharing love and participation. Overflowing Love and Participation.

CELEBRATION DRAWING

I, ME, MY GAME

To make children understand the importance of being in the now, about the ego, about the importance of participating

Make the children sit in a circle, encourage them to play the game.

Presentation: Children will sit in a circle and mentors will encourage them to talk by asking interesting questions about the children? The only one rule of the game is that the children must not use I, my, me while answering any questions. If they use these words they will be out of the game. Each child is allowed to share their experiences in turns. It is very difficult to express our views without using I, my and me. So encourage the children's effort to play this game. They can play this game only when they focus and participate in every moment.

Interpretation: To make the children understand how effective participation and focusing is, and so they can understand by practice that they can get rid of ego enhancing words like I, me, my. Instead of I, me, my they can use their names.

CUPS OF OVERFLOWING LOVE

Material required: Disposable cups (1 per child) Permanent marker Water (food colouring powder if required)

Preparation: Get all the materials together and have the children gather in a circle after discussion time.

Discussion:

Give an illustration on how we can be filled with love and overflow onto others. First take a cup and demonstrate how the cup represents a person, and the water is love. Add other cups on top of the first cup and when the water of love is poured on the first cup, it spills over to the others as it starts overflowing! Each child can use the permanent marker to write their name on a cup and take turns to realize the concept of sharing love by being filled-up, and then letting it overflow while sharing it with their friends

Presentation: Children will sit in a circle and mentors will encourage them to talk by asking interesting questions about the children? The only one rule of the game is that the children must not use I, my, me while answering any questions. If they use these words they will be out of the game. Each child is allowed to share their experiences in turns. It is very difficult to express our views without using I, my and me. So encourage the children's effort to play this game. They can play this game only when they focus and participate in every moment.

Interpretation: To make the children understand how effective participation and focusing is, and so they can understand by practice that they can get rid of ego enhancing words like I, me, my. Instead of I, me, my they can use their names.

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