14. Love Is Not A Choice

Love is a basic necessity.

In our daily interactions with people, many of us behave in a fashion that shows love as a choice. We express love when people do something that suits us or agrees with us. We love a person when they praise us or reward us. We love a person when they do exactly as we ask them to do. This is exactly what extremists do. Can we say that extremists act out of love?

We feel that we can choose to experience love or express love. We behave as if we had a choice. We decide if we want it, we can use it. Understand! If we use something to gain something else, it becomes a weapon. Even love can become a weapon. Of course, love can become a weapon of choice for transformation. Usually, we don't go down that path. Only when we apply it does it become a valuable tool.

Love is not a choice. We cannot have it when we want to or leave it when we don't want to. Every human being has to experience and express love in one form or the other. Love is a basic necessity to be alive. We have to first experience love and then express it. Be clear! Unless we experience love, we cannot express it.

Experiencing and expressing love is not a matter of choice. It is the only way to be alive, to live. If we do not experience and express love we may inhale and exhale but we are not being alive. Let us look back and recollect one incident that makes us feel alive. That incident has a tender moment, an aspect of love incorporated into it. Love is a basic necessity. Even to feel that we are living, we need to experience and express love.

In our daily life our expression and experience of love is laced with possessiveness, jealousy, anger, and strength. This is the simplest, basic form of love most of us experience. Even this ordinary love, simple infatuation, can do miracles for our body and mind. It gives us a deep feeling of healing, of well being.

Love is nothing but pure, concentrated, caring energy. So naturally, whenever we express love we become a channel for energy. When we are a channel for energy, we not

only help but we are also being helped.

Love is not a choice. Love is survival. Love lets us live, heal, and radiate bliss around us.