Love Book 4

The very openness which is necessary to experience love, can also make one feel extremely vulnerable. This gives rise to the fear of being exploited or cheated by the other person. This wrong conditioning about love becomes a big obstacle to experiencing love. If someone strongly believes that his or her love will end in pain, they will see that it will end in pain. They will be waiting for it to end in pain.

Their own cognition of people and their own selves will cause them to attract situations which will go on strengthening their wrong beliefs about love.

This is because it is human nature to want to make one's beliefs become a reality, otherwise one would not feel comfortable. That is the reason why conditionings about love, about life, need to be removed before one can experience pure love directly.

The right understanding about love will help to go with the flow of love and experience real love.

The way to look at love is,

When love happens, one should simply be in love without worrying about where it will lead, or whether one will be exploited or betrayed by the other person. Only then will one be able to experience love as the transcendental and transformational experience it really is.

Take the responsibility for love. That is where a relationship starts. Do not say 'I love you' to anybody unless you are ready to take the responsibility to fulfil their expectations about you, without bothering whether they are ready to fulfil your expectations or not.

Even if others' expectations from you is limiting you or them, you need to expand, stretch yourself to fulfil them first. Then make them understand that they need to expand; not before that. Only then they will understand their inauthenticity. Others are ready to listen about their inauthenticity from you only when you first prove that you are authentic.

The energy which you use to defend yourself from others and the energy that you need to stretch yourself to others' expectations, both are one and the same. You need less energy to stretch yourself to fulfil others' expectation than constantly defending yourself from others. Even a glimpse of love makes you expand yourself for more and more love. The best strategy plan for your life is the decision to love and build relationships!

There are two kinds of love:

• Horizontal Love
• Vertical Love

Horizontal love is like a horizontal line, flat. It is related to time: it starts and ends. Anything that starts must end. If it takes more time to end, don't think it is permanent. Anything that starts must end. It may take a few years or a few months, but it ends. It is impermanent and time bound. This is horizontal love.

Vertical love is related to consciousness. Vertical love neither starts nor ends. It does not discriminate. It is our very quality. It flows.

In real life, we always look to express our love towards others in some tangible way. Only if love is demonstrated in tangible form, it is considered to be love nowadays.

True love is like a communion. It is a resonance between two beings. It can be felt without any expression. It doesn't need communication because it is already happening as a communion. If you really love a person, then your very body language will show it.

It will be too much to express in words. You will feel that any words are inadequate and will only bring down the love that you feel. But if you are using words, then somewhere the love has not really happened. When you have to speak to express love, then somewhere there is a lie in it! You are using the words just to decorate the lie.

Real love liberates because it doesn't compel you to express it all the time. It just is. Real love also gives you the freedom to freely express what you want to express. You can easily express anything like disapproval or anger and it will not be mistaken for reduced love. Not only that, with real love, there will be no domination or power play in relationships. Each person will be like a beautiful flower that has blossomed to radiate its unique fragrance, that's all. With real love, there will be no fear or insecurity either.

In normal love, physical distance between two people causes a lot of insecurity and a lack of trust. Real love doesn't look for utility. It operates on sheer trust and is also beyond space and time. These days people are gifting each other with so many things to show their love. Gifting has become an expression of love. If the gifting happens as causeless overflowing, it is okay. We are totally relaxed anywhere in the world.

But if it is a condition to be fulfilled, it becomes a problem! Then it becomes a poor substitute for real love. As long as real love is there, no relationship can become boring.

Causeless overflowing love is always total in its expression. It doesn't carry the usual dilutions of greed or fear. So any person whom you love, you will love totally without any reservations. Irrespective of the way he is, you will love him.

When you love this way, even if the person leaves your life, you will not grieve. When a person passes away, you grieve only because you regret not having loved him completely. You can love him completely only when your love itself is complete.

It doesn't have to do anything with the other person. It doesn't matter what kind of person he is. That is the beauty of real love.

It loves for the sake of love, not for the sake of the other person.

If you are grieving for the loss of a person, be very clear, you are grieving because you missed loving him in totality. If you had loved him in totality, you would say good-bye to him with complete restfulness, not with grief. You grieve only because you missed something somewhere.

Even if it is your own father or husband or wife, it is the same. If you had radiated your causeless love to them when they were alive, then when they left there would not be any regret. But if you had loved them with rationalizations, then when they left, the incompleteness of your love towards them would create a hangover, and that hangover is what you feel as grief.

Love the ultimate healing energy. Love is not any way related to two physical structures, it is not even related to your own physical structure, it is not even related to the mental qualities you carry. Love is related to awareness you carry.

the awareness you carry naturally spreads its smell in your mental structure & your body. So the awareness which your physical structure experiences if that feels connected to the awareness of some physical structure is called infatuation.

Love is a mystical power, it's a mystical capability.

If you are able to show love a little bit once in a while it is a social emotion but ever loving, radiating love, is mystical power. Ability to love will happen in you only when you are able to be in the space of Completion.

Ability to be in the space of Completion only if you can complete, and establish yourself in the space of Completion, the ability to love becomes reality in you.

Most of the time you think the external world is responsible for your incompletion.

Understand, the External world, fully or partly, or even a little bit is not responsible for your incompletions.Incompletion by its very nature starts sprouting, growing, establishing itself only in your inner space its roots never come to the external world.

This means, many times others forgive you and forget you, because you are not that big a guy, but you cannot forgive you, because for you, you are a big guy. Many times they just forget the incompletions related to you. Many times they don't care but you don't forgive you, you don't forgive you because you are too big for you. Many times they just forget the incompletions related to you. Many times they don't care but you don't forgive you, you don't forgive you because you are too big for

The ability, ability to forgive yourself is the first quality to start loving. Only if you can forgive yourself, if you can complete with yourself, love starts. Only then love starts expressing itself, love starts happening in you. Love can happen only when you are in the space of completion. The ability to forgive yourself, ability to love yourself, ability to live with yourself, ability to be with yourself, it's actually a power.

Once in a while showing love or having love is a quality but being in love forever is a power. Understand, only when you are established in the space of completion you will understand this statement – "Love is a power"

Love is the greatest protection you can have in your life because even lion will lose its vengeance in front of you; snake will lose its venom in front of you; any enemy will lose his enmity which is a weapon with which he is trying to attack you, he will lose it.

When you are established in the power of love, even enemy thinks he is attacking you, but he goes on praising you and goes back. He just sings your glory and goes back, because even in his inner space your glory is occupying more space than his enmity.

You always show the soft things as the symbol of Love, because you know only pseudo love. Understand, we always show only the bird feeding the baby bird as the symbol of Love, action of Love. A rose flower we show as a symbol of Love but never a lion with a lion cub as a symbol of Love, because we know only superficial, pseudo love.

We always see only the superficial love, superficial love of rose and the bird feeding the baby bird. bird feeding the baby bird can be like showing the love once in a while. But a lion training the cub to hunt, lion making the cub to realize its potential, its possibility, that is the real love, making every individual realize. Showing love to your weaker side is what society, made you understand as Love.

When you are sick, somebody coming and giving you food, you call that as Love, because you know only that as Love. When you are sick, staring at you and saying, 'Get up! Throw this sickness out of your body! Walk out of this disease!' that is Love, real Love!

But you neither co-operate nor enjoy that kind of love, because you were never given the idea, impression, that is Love.

Love should be given to strengthen your completion side. Love should be given to strengthen your right side. Love should be given to strengthen your right space. But, unfortunately, you always enjoy, entertain, expect, attract, reciprocate, only to the love given to your wrong side.

The understanding about love, the experience of love continues to impact the way you behave, the way you think

forever.

once you start enjoying the love given to your wrong side, you are ready to be exploited. Show love to the right side of human beings.

Love is being in the flow with Existence, to be totally with it. Ego is like frozen ice. Love is like liquid water. Only when we are liquid do we become part of the ocean. Then we don't have any private goal or destination. Each moment is blissful, incredibly ecstatic, just going with the plan of the cosmos. The mind is part of the ego. It knows how to close, but it does not know how to open. To love means to open up, to surrender. It means opening up to Existence, to the flowers, to the bees and to the stars. How do we open to this beautiful music that fills the whole of Existence? How do we open up to this celebration that goes on and on – flowers dancing in the wind, trees enjoying the wind and the stars, always in a state of bliss? Except for man, everything else seems to be in harmony. Man falls out of harmony because he has what is called 'consciousness' which is not present in other living creatures.

Consciousness can do two things. It can create ego or it can create egolessness. If it creates ego, we live in hell. If it creates egolessness, we live in paradise. The whole world is in paradise without knowing it. When man enters paradise, he enters knowing it fully. That is the grandeur and beauty of man. That is the danger as well, because it is easier to fall into the trap of the ego and not enter into paradise than to enter paradise knowingly. The problem is that we have forgotten who we are and for what we were created. We are emperors of love, but we dream that we are beggars.

We have the whole kingdom of Existence within our being and yet we continue to beg for mundane things. We keep collecting mundane things not knowing that we have infinite, inexhaustible treasures within our being. We are oceans, yet we are thirsty because we have become disconnected from our own selves. But no matter how disconnected we are, no matter how much we have forgotten and how long we have forgotten, it can be remembered in a single moment and we can become connected immediately. Love is the connector

Make them aware that love is a caring, healing energy; that real love can heal.

• 1. What is living in conflict?
• 2. When can we live happily in our inner space?
• 3. How do you feel when someone is caring about you?
• 4. What do you feel when you express love?
• 5. What kind of energy is love?
• 6. Can your actions speak love?
• 7. Can you heal when you express real love?

So whenever you express love, you express energy also. Love is a concentrated, caring energy. So naturally, when you express real love you become a channel for healing energy. When you are a channel for energy you not only heal others but heal yourself as well. When we become love our actions will speak love.

This is a fun activity to show the class the concept of unity. Unity connects and with love and unity, we can connect and share with the whole world.

Materials required: Earbuds. Paint (different colours) Paper.

• 1. Talk about the meaning of unity. Unity is oneness, we are all part of this universe, and when we work as a team, with love and unity, we can be blissful.
• 2. Demonstrate how unity connects with a plain paper and a bud dipped in paint. Draw a shape of a heart using dots. Each of the dots represents each one of us. Then with a different colour, you can connect the dots creating a beautiful pattern. The connection of the dots represents the love in us. Love connects us in unity. It completes us.
• 3. Give each child a paper, and ask them to make a design with the concept of unity in mind (e.g. heart, circle, flower etc.)
• 4. Ask them to present their pictures and explain what it represents and they can write about it at the bottom of the page.

Conclusion: Sometimes we forget that we are a part of this universe.When we remember that we are all one, we will be united.

Explanation: This is a lovely activity to do in a group, a meditation that all can enjoy about love.

Material required: Instrumental music (optional)

• Presentation: 1. Gather the class and explain what we are about to do, ask them to close their eyes and picture themselves as love, pure liquid love overflowing to every part of their bodies.
• 2. When they have their eyes closed you can give them soft instructions while the music is playing quietly in the background. "Focus on your heart region. Exclude everything else. Focus only on the heart". "Visualize your heart as an endless reservoir from where blessings can flow ". "Feel every heartbeat deeply. Let every beat resound throughout you". "Between the heartbeats, feel the energy of love happening". "In the deepest parts of your body, mind and soul, the love energy is waiting to be acknowledged." "Invite the love energy of the heart to flow and fill these deepest parts of your body, mind and soul". 3. Slowly tell them to open their eyes.

Discussion: Continue with the discussion about how we can express love. Expand on this: 'When we become love our actions will speak love.' What kind of actions can we do to express our love? Practise expressing love by using words which will express love. For example: Discuss what kind of words we will use, what kind of voice.

Conclusion: This meditation helps them to focus and even become love; they should carry this with them. The more effort they put into this meditation, the more they get from it.

Part 2: Love Book 4_English_part_2.md