Love Book 3

The very openness which is necessary to experience love, can also make one feel extremely vulnerable. This gives rise to the fear of being exploited or cheated by the other person. This wrong conditioning about love becomes a big obstacle to experiencing love. If someone strongly believes that his or her love will end in pain, they will see that it will end in pain. They will be waiting for it to end in pain.

Their own cognition of people and their own selves will cause them to attract situations which will go on strengthening their wrong beliefs about love.

This is because it is human nature to want to make one's beliefs become a reality, otherwise one would not feel comfortable. That is the reason why conditionings about love, about life, need to be removed before one can experience pure love directly.

The right understanding about love will help to go with the flow of love and experience real love.

The way to look at love is,

When love happens, one should simply be in love without worrying about where it will lead, or whether one will be exploited or betrayed by the other person. Only then will one be able to experience love as the transcendental and transformational experience it really is.

Take the responsibility for love. That is where a relationship starts. Do not say 'I love you' to anybody unless you are ready to take the responsibility to fulfil their expectations about you, without bothering whether they are ready to fulfil your expectations or not.

Even if others' expectations from you is limiting you or them, you need to expand, stretch yourself to fulfil them first. Then make them understand that they need to expand; not before that. Only then they will understand their inauthenticity. Others are ready to listen about their inauthenticity from you only when you first prove that you are authentic.

The energy which you use to defend yourself from others and the energy that you need to stretch yourself to others' expectations, both are one and the same. You need less energy to stretch yourself to fulfil others' expectation than constantly defending yourself from others. Even a glimpse of love makes you expand yourself for more and more love. The best strategy plan for your life is the decision to love and build relationships!

There are two kinds of love:

• Horizontal Love
• Vertical Love

Horizontal love is like a horizontal line, flat. It is related to time: it starts and ends. Anything that starts must end. If it takes more time to end, don't think it is permanent. Anything that starts must end. It may take a few years or a few months, but it ends. It is impermanent and time bound. This is horizontal love.

Vertical love is related to consciousness. Vertical love neither starts nor ends. It does not discriminate. It is our very quality. It flows.

In real life, we always look to express our love towards others in some tangible way. Only if love is demonstrated in tangible form, it is considered to be love nowadays.

True love is like a communion. It is a resonance between two beings. It can be felt without any expression. It doesn't need communication because it is already happening as a communion. If you really love a person, then your very body language will show it.

It will be too much to express in words. You will feel that any words are inadequate and will only bring down the love that you feel. But if you are using words, then somewhere the love has not really happened. When you have to speak to express love, then somewhere there is a lie in it! You are using the words just to decorate the lie.

Real love liberates because it doesn't compel you to express it all the time. It just is. Real love also gives you the freedom to freely express what you want to express. You can easily express anything like disapproval or anger and it will not be mistaken for reduced love. Not only that, with real love, there will be no domination or power play in relationships. Each person will be like a beautiful flower that has blossomed to radiate its unique fragrance, that's all. With real love, there will be no fear or insecurity either.

In normal love, physical distance between two people causes a lot of insecurity and a lack of trust. Real love doesn't look for utility. It operates on sheer trust and is also beyond space and time. These days people are gifting each other with so many things to show their love. Gifting has become an expression of love. If the gifting happens as causeless overflowing, it is okay. We are totally relaxed anywhere in the world.

But if it is a condition to be fulfilled, it becomes a problem! Then it becomes a poor substitute for real love. As long as real love is there, no relationship can become boring.

Causeless overflowing love is always total in its expression. It doesn't carry the usual dilutions of greed or fear. So any person whom you love, you will love totally without any reservations. Irrespective of the way he is, you will love him.

When you love this way, even if the person leaves your life, you will not grieve. When a person passes away, you grieve only because you regret not having loved him completely. You can love him completely only when your love itself is complete.

It doesn't have to do anything with the other person. It doesn't matter what kind of person he is. That is the beauty of real love.

It loves for the sake of love, not for the sake of the other person.

If you are grieving for the loss of a person, be very clear, you are grieving because you missed loving him in totality. If you had loved him in totality, you would say good-bye to him with complete restfulness, not with grief. You grieve only because you missed something somewhere.

Even if it is your own father or husband or wife, it is the same. If you had radiated your causeless love to them when they were alive, then when they left there would not be any regret. But if you had loved them with rationalizations, then when they left, the incompleteness of your love towards them would create a hangover, and that hangover is what you feel as grief.

Love the ultimate healing energy. Love is not any way related to two physical structures, it is not even related to your own physical structure, it is not even related to the mental qualities you carry. Love is related to awareness you carry.

the awareness you carry naturally spreads its smell in your mental structure & your body. So the awareness which your physical structure experiences if that feels connected to the awareness of some physical structure is called infatuation.

Love is a mystical power, it's a mystical capability.

If you are able to show love a little bit once in a while it is a social emotion but ever loving, radiating love, is mystical power. Ability to love will happen in you only when you are able to be in the space of Completion.

Ability to be in the space of Completion only if you can complete, and establish yourself in the space of Completion, the ability to love becomes reality in you.

Most of the time you think the external world is responsible for your incompletion.

Understand, the External world, fully or partly, or even a little bit is not responsible for your incompletions.Incompletion by its very nature starts sprouting, growing, establishing itself only in your inner space its roots never come to the external world.

This means, many times others forgive you and forget you, because you are not that big a guy, but you cannot forgive you, because for you, you are a big guy. Many times they just forget the incompletions related to you. Many times they don't care but you don't forgive you, you don't forgive you because you are too big for you. Many times they just forget the incompletions related to you. Many times they don't care but you don't forgive you, you don't forgive you because you are too big for

The ability, ability to forgive yourself is the first quality to start loving. Only if you can forgive yourself, if you can complete with yourself, love starts. Only then love starts expressing itself, love starts happening in you. Love can happen only when you are in the space of completion. The ability to forgive yourself, ability to love yourself, ability to live with yourself, ability to be with yourself, it's actually a power.

Once in a while showing love or having love is a quality but being in love forever is a power. Understand, only when you are established in the space of completion you will understand this statement – "Love is a power"

Love is the greatest protection you can have in your life because even lion will lose its vengeance in front of you; snake will lose its venom in front of you; any enemy will lose his enmity which is a weapon with which he is trying to attack you, he will lose

it.

When you are established in the power of love, even enemy thinks he is attacking you, but he goes on praising you and goes back. He just sings your glory and goes back, because even in his inner space your glory is occupying more space than his enmity.

You always show the soft things as the symbol of Love, because you know only pseudo love. Understand, we always show only the bird feeding the baby bird as the symbol of Love, action of Love. A rose flower we show as a symbol of Love but never a lion with a lion cub as a symbol of Love, because we know only superficial, pseudo love.

We always see only the superficial love, superficial love of rose and the bird feeding the baby bird. bird feeding the baby bird can be like showing the love once in a while. But a lion training the cub to hunt, lion making the cub to realize its potential, its possibility, that is the real love, making every individual realize. Showing love to your weaker side is what society, made you

understand as Love.

When you are sick, somebody coming and giving you food, you call that as Love, because you know only that as Love. When you are sick, staring at you and saying, 'Get up! Throw this sickness out of your body! Walk out of this disease!' that is Love, real Love!

But you neither co-operate nor enjoy that kind of love, because you were never given the idea, impression, that is Love.

Love should be given to strengthen your completion side. Love should be given to strengthen your right side. Love should be given to strengthen your right space. But, unfortunately, you always enjoy, entertain, expect, attract, reciprocate, only to the love given to your wrong side.

The understanding about love, the experience of love continues to impact the way you behave, the way you think

forever.

once you start enjoying the love given to your wrong side, you are ready to be exploited. Show love to the right side of human beings.

The first kind of restlessness happens due to your circumstances. Sometimes, in a particular place or situation you feel restless. If you move from that place or situation, you feel more settled. Even under uncomfortable circumstances, if you just show a gesture of love to someone, or if someone shows a gesture of love to you, things can become instantly better for you! It can heal you. The second kind of restlessness is physical. Physical restlessness is nothing but a constant tension in your body for no particular reason. It is said that all such tension can be released when you express love to somebody. You may ask, 'How can love take away physical restlessness?' You can see for example, a mother who has a child to look after will feel continuously rejuvenated in spite of the child driving her crazy! Because of the love element, she will cope with the tension. Otherwise, taking care of children is not an easy job! The rejuvenation happens because of the love and care the mother feels for the child. Any tension or restlessness in the body disappears when you care for somebody, when you smile at somebody, when you express love in your body language, even if it is just once.

When you express yourself through your head, it is called intelligence. When you express yourself through your heart, it is felt as love. When you express yourself through your being, it is experienced as energy. When you relax into your being without expressing, it is bliss! Each one is the same energy but expressed in four different ways. So whenever you express love, you express energy also. Love is concentrated, caring energy. So naturally, whenever you express love you become a channel for healing energy. When you are a channel for energy, you not only heal others but heal yourself as well.

The third form of restlessness is mental. Any mental restlessness can be healed by love. Research indicates that when you care for pets or play with children, you reduce the possibility of heart attacks and also reduce the risk of fatal diseases! The fourth form of restlessness is emotional. Mental restlessness is different from emotional restlessness. Mental restlessness is purely intellectual and can be controlled easily. But emotional restlessness cannot be controlled by just a few words of consolation. It can be healed only when you express love. When you start radiating love, it floods your being with energy. When your being is opened to such higher energies, it heals the emotional restlessness.

Ultimately, we come to spiritual restlessness. There are so many people who can sit with others, who can sit with the television, who can sit with newspapers, but who can't sit with themselves. This is what is called spiritual restlessness. Spiritual restlessness means that you cannot sit with yourself. You can give appointments to everybody else but not to yourself! Your love for the teacher or the master can heal your spiritual restlessness. Many people come and tell me, 'Swamiji, just sitting in your presence puts us in a calm state but when we go back home, we are not able to remain in that calmness. Why is it so?' When you are in the presence of an enlightened person, you start relating, you start expressing your love towards him automatically. This heals your spiritual restlessness.

Make the children aware of various kinds of restlessness and how love heals all of them, how we use our senses to experience love. Click: Restlessness.

• 1. How do you use your senses to understand love? (Only through expression or experience).
• 2. Where do you feel love? (Inside your heart-inner space).
• 3. How do you know you are feeling love? (Empty, light, blissful).
• 4. Boom! (Loud noise) "What happened inside?" you feel scared in your heart, something disturbing your inner space.
• 5. Hugs, what do you feel now? You feel loved in the inner space.
• 6. What are the different senses we have?
• 7. How would you feel if you lose one sense?
• 8. How would you feel if you had no
• 9. eyes to see, no ears to hear? No mouth to speak?
• 10. Will you feel sad? Where?
• 11. What if instead we gained an extra sense, through love and bliss?
• 12. How would you like to have wings to fly?
• 13. How is it if we can feel love in 2 people or even more (the whole world)?
• 14. Why do we prefer to go to the park/beach/temple?

Conclusion:

Enriching and causing others reality heals and causes our reality and ultimately

heals all 5 restlessness in us.

Material required: Play dough Food color (pink or orange)

1 cup flour 1 cup salt 22 cup water

Preparation: Create play dough out of flour, salt, and water. Knead the dough, so as to be pliable enough to be formed into shapes.

This is a simple activity which will cement the concept of having love in our inner space.

Question: Where do we experience love?

Answer: In our inner space, inside our heart. It is not available outside. Distribute a piece of play dough to each child, add a few drops of food coloring and knead it to distribute the coloring uniformly. They can shape the dough into a heart and decorate it as they please. Else we can also have them draw and color a heart on a chart paper.

Preparation: Give everyone a block of ice, and have them blow on the ice cube and say words of love to rid themselves of the ego and watch the ice melt into pure liquid love.

Discussion: Love is being in the flow with life and everything around us, ego is like frozen ice. Talk about love, the illustration of love being like water, always moving, giving us life and health. Ego is like hard rock. It is not able to move. It is just like a frozen block of ice, closed and cold, not able to give and receive the power of love. Ego is always holding on to 'mine' , 'l' and the ice cube thinks it is so important. But if we are able to let go and become "egoless" , we will become love instead.

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