1. Comparison - Lesson 9

Why do we feel so intensely threatened by another's beauty or wealth or talent? This is nothing but simple social conditioning. Brought up in a competitive world, we tend to imagine that the more someone else has of something, the less there is for us!

One of the natural tendencies for you is comparing yourself with others. And, whether you compare yourself with the people whom you think higher than you or whom you think lower than you, you are going to fall into the space of powerlessness. If you compare yourself with the people whom you think higher than you, you will fall into the powerless space of guilt, giving up on you, the idea you are not worthy enough; you will fall into all these powerless spaces.

If you compare yourself with the people whom you think higher than you, you will fall into the powerless space of guilt, giving up on you, the idea you are not worthy enough; you will fall into all these powerless spaces.

If you compare yourself with people whom you think who are lower than you, again you will fall into the superiority complex, arrogance, which is also powerlessness.

Comparison can be of two kinds: constructive comparison and destructive comparison.

Constructive comparison is essential and desirable. In a practical sense, it gives you a yardstick against which to measure yourself. It provides the spur, the stimulus to improve. Without comparing, how can you have a realistic appreciation of yourself?

Destructive comparison results from the inability to accept reality. In this big wide world, someone is sure to be better than you at whatever you do. 99.99% chances are that you're not the world's best mathematician, the fastest runner or the most talented painter. Does that mean that you enjoy these things any less? To focus only on what you're lacking simply means that you're on your way to a massive inferiority complex. And who needs it?

Look around you. Do you know anyone else who is exactly the same as you? Don't you see how special you are? If you are comparing yourself to others and feeling miserable, it simply means that you aren't appreciating yourself enough! You are so out of touch with your inner being that you have forgotten how extraordinary you really are. Once you realise this, the need to compare dies naturally. Even if you wanted to compare, each person is so different - where is a common point of reference? So drop the attitude of comparison. Remember, you are truly unique - just like everyone else!

"Completion with yourself raises you to the level of Enlightenment and liberates you from the cognition of comparing yourself with others and keeping yourself in a very low level."

One of the natural tendencies for you is comparing yourself with others. And, whether you compare yourself with the people whom you think higher than you or whom you think lower than you, you are going to fall into the space of powerlessness. Whether you think there are some people who are higher than you and you compare with them, or lower than you and compare with them, both ways you will fall into powerlessness.

If you compare yourself with the people whom you think higher than you, you will fall into the powerless space of guilt, giving up on you, the idea you are not worthy enough; you will fall into all these powerless spaces.

If you compare yourself with people whom you think who are lower than you, again you will fall into the superiority complex, arrogance, which is also a powerlessness.

Whether you compare yourself with people whom you think are higher than you or you think are lower than you, you are in the space of powerlessness and you are destroying yourself. And you are going to destroy yourself unless you raise yourself, unless you complete with yourself.

The first thing will hit you is, the moment you compare yourself with the people higher than you, you will become powerless. You will shiver, you will shake. You will shiver; you will lose confidence over your powerful space. You will think the powerfulness happened in you only as an accident but your nature is powerlessness. You will come to the wrong conclusions about you which is the biggest curse. It is life imprisonment.

Whoever you may be, if you have a wrong idea about you, you are in life imprisonment.

Carrying the ideas lower than you, about you is the life imprisonment in which you suffer for comparing yourself with people whom you think are higher than you., every time you compare yourself with people whom you think are higher than you, you are taking away the life energy happening in you, you are blocking your Kundalini energy, you are blocking your life force, you are destroying your bio-energy because it is going to reinforce the faith in you that you are powerless, you are useless, you are lifeless.

The moment you think somebody is bigger than you and he knows it, you are going to be exploited by him. The person who is really, really bigger than you will always be helping you to make you become like him. But whom you think is bigger than you will only be exploiting you. Who is really bigger than you will be explaining to you. Whom you think is bigger than you will be exploiting you. Who is really bigger than you will be explaining to you.

Whether you compare yourself with the people whom you think are bigger than you or lower than you, comparison is going to put you in powerlessness.

When you think somebody is higher than you and you compare yourself with them, the different kinds of tortures you will give it to you, you will bring upon you,

All your good, bad, everything is perceived by you; if that you is corrupted, your whole life is Hell. Then whatever direction you are functioning is wrong. You need to sit and look why you are doing what you are doing before you are completely collapsed, you need to look in , why you are doing what you are doing.

The civilizations which drives you by creating a peer pressure where you are forced to compare yourself with people higher than you, will be filled with psychological disorders. All the so-called grown up countries are Filled with psychological disorders.

If you are constantly comparing yourself with whom you think as higher than you, even if you reach that place, you will be reaching that place by fear.

Arrogance is the most powerful, cunning method which shows all the inauthenticity, irresponsibility you have on others. And you go on comparing yourself with others and destroy yourself! Unless you get out of it, only when you enrich yourself with responsibility, you can become authentic again.

Comparing yourself with the people whom you think are lower than you. this is worse than the earlier pattern. This leads to arrogance, ego, inauthenticity.

You will never do anything, but you think you are qualified for everything! You will never take responsibility, but you think you can boss around everyone. this mental setup puts you in Indraloka where constant insecurity resides.

OTHER SIDE OF COMPARISON

If you are caught in the pattern of comparing yourself with the people whom you think are lower than you, you will develop so much of arrogance, pride, inauthenticity; you will never take the responsibility; you will never live the life of enriching yourself and others

In powerfulness, you will never feel you are doing too much, you will never have the stress, because you don't conduct the Tug of War before making any decision.

When you carry arrogance, even to make a simple decision you will do so much of Tug of War inside, you will really feel you are doing too much and you will complicate things..

If you are in the space of Completion, all the work you touch will be successful, it will flourish, it will bring so much of powerfulness in you.

Success-Powerfulness will always shower success, understand, never bring failure. It is a law of life!

Whatever may be the reason for your powerlessness, once the powerlessness enters in you, it eats away even one or two remaining good things in your life. Even the few moments of powerfulness which you experienced will be forgotten by you; you will think it is only a illusion or delusion or accident happened in your life. If you think the beautiful moments of your life happened in you as an accident, there is nobody unfortunate than you.

Even if you try to show yourself as powerful, when you are feeling inside powerless, the pull and push internally creates tremendous stress.

Comparing yourself with people whom you think higher than you puts you into the eternal depression. We can call this hell as "Kumbhipaakam". Garuda Purana describes various hells. Putting yourself in the space of powerlessness is equivalent to putting yourself in hell with a lot of effort.

Neither comparing yourself with the people who you think are higher than you nor comparing yourself with people who you think are lower than you is going to keep you powerful or help you in your life.

Remain powerful by remembering comparing with others is a sickness which happens due to powerlessness.

Whether you compare yourself with people whom you think are higher than you or you think are lower than you, you are in the space of powerlessness and you are destroying yourself. And you are going to destroy yourself unless you raise yourself, unless you complete with yourself.

Have the courage to make mistakes. But also learn from past mistakes and avoid repeating mistakes.

Serious people are always afraid to make mistakes. Actually those people who are afraid of making small mistakes end up making big blunders.

Actually when you make a mistake and when people point it out, you are unable to bear it. Your ego gets hurt. So to avoid getting your ego hurt, you try your best not to make mistakes.

There is nothing wrong with making mistakes. In fact by making a few mistakes, you can come to know how to avoid making mistakes, because you have experientially understood it.

The more you learn from mistakes, the more you know about how not to make mistakes.

Do things to the best of your intelligence and enthusiasm but without worrying about whether you might make a mistake. Also, you must learn from your mistakes or those of others. It is not good to repeat the same mistakes. When you are not so concerned about your ego getting hurt, you will have the courage to take any jump.

Life is beyond our logic. Most of us unconsciously believe that life is filled with incidents that are under the control of logic. But life reminds us, again and again the truth; that life is beyond our logic.

To make them aware of the fact that life is beyond our logic, encourage taking sensible risks and learn from past mistakes and not repeat them. Keep on expanding till you reach your state space and express Powers of Paramashiva

• How would you feel when somebody points out your mistakes?

• Do you have the courage to make mistakes? Is it ok to make mistakes?

• Can we learn from our mistakes?

• Can we repeat the same mistakes again?

• What are the common mistakes we make?

• Can we predict things in our lives?

• What are the things we learn from our mistakes?

• What would happen when you think you are the best and that nobody is superior to you?

Have the courage to make mistakes, learn from your mistakes, be free from ego and act with freedom and courage.

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• Paper
• Paint with vinegar
• Vanilla or any essence mixed in them.

Encourage each child to draw pictures using paint mixed with Vinegar, vanilla or any other aromatic materials mixed in it.

Part 2: Comparison - Lesson 9

Talk to your teacher or your parent about three mistakes that you made in the recent past and also share what or how you learnt some thing from these mistakes